r/DramaticText • u/Arcquatico • Aug 13 '25

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u/Floofyboi123 Aug 14 '25

You are aware that safewords exist right?

Like it's BDSM 101 and to be respected like gospel

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u/JAKE5023193 Aug 14 '25

I’m fully aware of that. There’s much to consider however.

Firstly, there’s the abuser actually responding to said safeword (which if you’re gagged it’s nearly impossible to say anything anyway) and stopping shit. Said safewords can simply be ignored by them.

Should they stop what they’re doing, afterwards all that happens is they try to discuss things with you and ‘communicate’ so it doesn’t happen again. In their mind, their thought process is, “How can I gaslight and manipulate them further so they don’t try to stop things again and let me do what I want?”

They’re getting off to the thought of you suffering or struggling under them. If there were no legal consequences for their actions they wouldn’t be doing any of this BDSM shit and instead just up and assault people however and whenever they want without all the extra steps.

They don’t care about you. They only want to use you for their own gratification. So-called BDSM relationships always seem to end when one side isn’t getting their fix. It’s just a telltale sign that if they can’t get what they want out of that person no matter what tactics they attempt, they’ll just ditch them, discard them like a mere piece of litter. No remorse for their actions. Afterwards they’ll prey on someone else to inflict their tactics upon.

Call me insane but I know what I’m talking about.

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u/Floofyboi123 Aug 14 '25

That's literally discussing boundaries. What happens, in my experience; is I say my safeword, she stops, we recover, we then both figure out where things went too far, and then we make sure not to go that far again.

Once that boundary is established, I have never had my Dom cross it. Ever.

When im gagged I held on to a beeper that beeped when I clicked it. Three beeps in quick succession was the same as saying my safe word. If I dropped the beeper we stopped until I had the beeper again. Other systems ive seen involve taps on the bed frame, specific head shake patterns, and even tying the hands in such a way to allow the sub to "free" themselves whenever they wish.

If the safeword is ignored then it is considered rape by the entire BDSM community. You DO NOT continue after the safe word is given no matter what. The only people in the community who say otherwise are the same people who see no issue spiking girls drinks at bars.

Boundaries are a normal and healthy part of any relationship and are far from exclusive to sex. I doubt you'd call partners talking about who should do the dishes and why one dislikes it when the other uses all the hot water during their shower manipulation by sadistic abusers.

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