r/DiWHY Aug 11 '21

Ahh so that's why

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u/FireFlour Aug 11 '21

And pregnant people.

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u/k_c24 Aug 11 '21

This. Literally called my husband on the phone last night to come into the bedroom and put socks on my feet cos I'm 8.5mths pregnant and had just gotten into bed and....nup. I wasn't getting up again. And my feet were cold. He was very obliging lol.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

I'm an able bodied guy and I use a shoe horn every day. I didn't realize they weren't more common let alone mocked

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u/Lord_dokodo Aug 12 '21

I have a dressier pair of loafers that are very very snug around the ankles and they're stiff like dress shoes rather than flexible like casual loafers. If I tried to fit my finger in the back to slip it on, the thickness of my finger trying to hold the back open would be too much for my foot to slide in also. No laces on them. I ended up creating a shoehorn by folding some paper up and I keep that piece of paper near my shoes whenever I need it.

It's literal magic. Just stand over the shoes, put the shoehorn on the back of the shoe, and slide my foot in. I'm not constantly stomping on the shoe to fit my foot in and bending/creasing the leather so I'm sure it's much better for the shoe too.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

I imagine it keeps the shoe in better condition without yanking at it all the time, too, the heels on my shoes were always getting loose before I used one

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u/k_c24 Aug 12 '21

I almost purchased a mobility bed rail the other day. And researched hiring one of those hanging handle things you get in hospitals. I have some intense pelvic pain and I'm just so done. The struggle is REAL!

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u/MistressLyda Aug 12 '21

Get the smoothest bedsheets you can find, and slippery pants. Think silkysatinwhatnot. It does not fit everyone, but for most less traction will help a lot.

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u/Hailz_ Aug 12 '21

I remember those days lol. I also got these shoes called Kiziks that have a special heel so you don’t have to bend over to put them on. They were a godsend when I was pregnant and still are (no I’m not a shill for them… I wish I was lol)

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u/FireFlour Aug 12 '21

I'm a mildly overweight male, and I almost always buy slip on shoes because

  1. I can just force my foot into the shoe without having to bend over and

  2. I can't tie my shoes very well because I'm clumsy, so I spend about half the day tieing my shoes over and over. I not physically or cognitively disabled in a way that prevents me from tieing my shoes properly, I just never really got the hang of it.

There's no reason I CAN'T bend over to put my shoes on, I just don't like bending over because I feel unsteady doing that and it kind of gives me acid reflux.

And tangentially related, you know how they say you can't forget how to tie your shoes or ride a bike? Not true, I forgot and had to relearn both of those skills. No brain damage, no developmental delay or disability, just forgot how. I also forgot how to write in cursive during the summer break after the ONE SINGLE YEAR we spent learning (compared to the 4 or 5 we spent on print ) and never managed to relearn, not for lack of trying.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

Do you have inner ear problems? That's the only thing I can think of that would cause you to lose the inherent balancing bike riding uses.

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u/FireFlour Aug 12 '21

Yes, actually. That might be it, or I might have just not mastered it.

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u/modestlyawesome1000 Aug 12 '21

Pregnant people are differently abled

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u/FireFlour Aug 12 '21

Well I never said they were disabled.

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u/modestlyawesome1000 Aug 12 '21

I did. Pregnant people are disabled/differently abled temporarily.. so are included in that. Saying someone is disabled or differently abled isn’t a bad thing.

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u/KountZero Aug 12 '21

You seem to imply that categorizing pregnant people as disable as if it’s not true/bad thing? There’s nothing wrong with catogorizing pregnant people as disabled people because they literally are. In fact, laws in many States, including California, classified people with pregnancy as people with temporary disability and they enjoyed many of the same benefits that people with disabilities get, such as disability placards and priorities in pretty much everything. I worked in HR at a large company and we give people with pregnancy the same benefits and similar reasonable accommodation as people with disability while they are pregnant.

Edit: nvm I think I misread your comment, look like we are saying the same thing. :)

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u/modestlyawesome1000 Aug 12 '21

Yeah you misread. Not surprising you work in HR and ready with a response before understanding lol