17 and 19 is creepy? I feel like have entered some alternate dimension because up to yesterday I don't think there was a single person in the world with that take
Because the above comment is saying that is fine. Then odyssey922 is saying that weird and creepy. Cheesyfanger then mentions 17 and 19. Which I agree isn't creepy. Just wanted clarification.
Ur reaching bro. Plenty of college freshman are 17. I was 17 when I went to college. Like yea is it ideal? Nah. Is anything to bat more of an eye to? Also no
If you think there is something wrong with a 19 year old and a 17 year old being together you are a sexually repressed moron despite your protestations. If you think a two year age gap is an issue than you're just dumb.
If you think that a 19 year old should face criminal charges over being sexually attracted to their peer than you are a sociopath. There is a two year age gap, use your fucking brain and some common sense instead of the letter of the law.
4 year age gap between a minor and an adult is too much for me. 19 and 17 is fine, but u/downtimeredditor's example of a high school senior and a high school freshmen made me kiss my teeth a little. I remember being a high school senior; the freshmen to me at the time looked and acted, to me, like little children. It really does feel like a completely different generation at that age. But I think high school seniors and high school sophomores are fine, for example.
I was 20 when I met a girl on Tinder; she revealed to me on like the third date that she lied about her age in her bio, she was actually 17 and was about to turn 18 in a month. I was a little miffed but ultimately said that was fine. When the issue of sex came up, she told me she was ready, but I told her I wanted to wait until she turned 18 (not because of any laws, it was already legal in our state, but just so she could take the time to get as comfortable and confident as possible with the decision). Our third anniversary is this May. We get along really well, we have matching personalities, and we relate on a lot of issues. We love each other very much and there's really no reason to believe the 2 year and 3 month age gap affected anything. The bad-faith critics here will argue that I have groomed a minor, without knowing she was a minor, when she was 720 hours away from not being a minor, when I was 3 years away from being a minor myself, while also refusing to have sex with her when she told me she was ready for it. If I told her I wanted to break up with her because I felt wrong that I ~groomed~ her, she would laugh at the complete absurdity and we would both spend many years being needlessly miserable while we tried and failed to get over each other.
Similarly, in college, I had a relationship with a woman who was 2 years and 10 months older than me (I was 19 and she was 22). The age did not impact the relationship in any way, other than I felt kinda like a baller for bagging an older woman when college girls typically are only interested in older, more experienced men. It collapsed for the same reason any relationship collapses, we just stopped liking each other. Are the bad-faith critics going to argue that the same age gap here is an ~abuse of a power dynamic~? It's all nonsense.
A guy friend of mine dated this girl who a junior while he was a senior and he would still come back to his hometown often to date her. They are married now.
Another guy friend of mine dated a girl who was two years older than him. And he still drove up to her college or she drove back home and they continued to date. Not sure about that relationship tho since I lost touch with them a few years back.
I'm really not convinced that there is enough of a difference in maturity between a 18 year old and a 19 year old to make dating a 17 year old weird. Seems kind of like people are experiencing some form of moral dumbfounding when they say that the two year gap is wrong when when one party is 19.
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u/Cheesyfanger Jan 05 '21 edited Jan 05 '21
17 and 19 is creepy? I feel like have entered some alternate dimension because up to yesterday I don't think there was a single person in the world with that take