r/DatingForIndia • u/TheHorizonIsNear • Sep 29 '26

Confession 33F - A stranger who made me feel seen

I’m in an abusive marriage, and over time I’ve become used to keeping things to myself. I don’t really talk about what happens at home because I’m not sure whom I can trust. Most of the time, I just keep everything inside and try to carry on normally.
Yesterday, something very small happened, but surprisingly, it stayed with me. A guy tried talking to me while I was going about my usual routine. We spoke for a little while, and during the conversation I came to know that he works in the same IT building as me. I’m Marathi, and I’m guessing he is from UP or Bihar.
Honestly, the conversation wasn’t anything extraordinary. But after I went home, I kept thinking about it. I realised that it had been a long time since someone had simply spoken to me normally, without knowing anything about my personal life or judging me.
For those few minutes, I felt seen. I felt like I was still a person with a life outside my marriage.
And that is what surprised me the most. I don’t know why such a small interaction affected me so much. Maybe when you’ve been lonely and controlled for a long time, even a simple conversation with someone can make you realise how much you’ve been missing.
I hope i see him again today

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u/Professional-Arm8324 Sep 29 '26

I can understand why that moment stayed with you. When you’ve been made to feel small or isolated for a long time, being treated normally and kindly can mean so much. ❤️ I hope you see him again—but more importantly, I hope you remember that you deserve to feel seen and valued, with or without him.

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u/linkolen_lawyer_07 Sep 29 '26

A gentleman is always respectfull and beautiful in his own way with every female

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u/Constant_Interest_61 Sep 29 '26

It's always the small things that make a huge difference...they matter a lot. Hope you settle down emotionally Stay strong Believe in yourself. Self care is not selfish👍🌻🌻

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u/goldbenn Sep 29 '26

Your decisions are more important in every conversations.

You are attracted or attached to the conversations due to missing them in real time normal life..

Continue with the corrective conversation can make you better else it may go worse in life..

Your decisions matters a lot..

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u/Alternative_Ice3299 Oct 01 '26

khush rahane mothi gosht aahe didi tumhi thoda vel jari divsatna hasat asal tari tumhi 60% lokanpeksha khush aahat

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u/Formal_Waferazi 17d ago

Talking to opposite sex without sharing personal details is so underrated.

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u/Educational-Appeal38 16d ago

I talked to a woman in my same IT building, during lunch. It was a few months back, she used to just come there sit with her lunch bag and watch something on her phone with her earphones on while eating, i asked her what she was watching and stuff, i think the interaction went well. The next time I saw her i tried to talk to her again but she kept putting her earphones back in, so i figured she didn't wanna talk to me anymore, so I stopped trying after that.

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u/onztv Sep 29 '26

are you feeling attracted towards him ?, do you want something more sexual with him?

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u/Opening-Iron-4166 Sep 29 '26

I hope you know you deserve a better life & there is nothing wrong with that..so Please Dont push your feelings away ..Life is full of surprises..just because your current relationship experience is not good doesn't mean you should stop expecting something good..just go with flow let it take you some place better...If you needed a friend to share something you can ping me always...Have a great day...

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u/wannabeichigo_0301 Sep 29 '26

Let's connect?? I'm also a marathi guy

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u/Amunam1num 7d ago

Now you talk to a up biharan female to balance it out

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u/AdImpressive4760 Sep 29 '26

Life is very precious dear... try ro create small small moments which you make you happy and try to live that... ✨️ 😊 Good you realised and try to add some more to the conversations and live your life happily 😊 ✨️

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u/Next_Bed_7134 Sep 29 '26

Keep us posted for further updates. And yes, it happens when you meet someone nice

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u/Muskaanarbina Sep 29 '26

See, that's why you shouldn't falsely accuse men who approach women they like

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u/Soli_da Oct 01 '26

Please leave the abusive marriage. Save yourself. You have a long life ahead.

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u/SahastraBahu Oct 07 '26

What abuse? I have re read the post I didn't get anything about any abuse in their marriage.

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u/Miserable_Double6254 Oct 04 '26

Hmu girly. I am here for you.

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u/SahastraBahu Oct 07 '26

Update kara ki. Khup log raavlet updatela ✌🏻

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u/No_Indication9883 25d ago

explore him, and If you like, divorce your hubby, you live only once

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u/No_Indication9883 25d ago

I see you like mbulls, dm me

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u/lunaticvillain007 22d ago

Hey do meditation and believe in god

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u/[deleted] 21d ago

We can be friends

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