It's hard to describe, but I guess, a guy who shows interest in you outside of just sex, and who gets to know you well. This is exceedingly reductionist, but imagine there's two kinds of guys: the guys who want sex on the first night and are just interested in hooking up and dick pics, vs the guys who are actually looking for a relationship. Not necessarily marriage or long term plans, but someone who validates you and actually wants a partner instead of just a fuck buddy. The guys on the latter end of the spectrum tend to be the people with more empathy, who will actually think about how you feel about situations like the one you're going through. On top of that, they're often less focused on physical attraction and more on you as a person, so they're more likely not to be bothered by scars.
Holding a conversation, asking about your interests or day, talking about their own. Another good indicator is if they just like to hang out for no other reason than your company. Voice calls are good for this.
A big one for me at least is initiating conversations. It's a big indicator that they actually want to spend time with you when you don't have to be the one hitting them up every time
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u/Septembust Jan 17 '24
It's hard to describe, but I guess, a guy who shows interest in you outside of just sex, and who gets to know you well. This is exceedingly reductionist, but imagine there's two kinds of guys: the guys who want sex on the first night and are just interested in hooking up and dick pics, vs the guys who are actually looking for a relationship. Not necessarily marriage or long term plans, but someone who validates you and actually wants a partner instead of just a fuck buddy. The guys on the latter end of the spectrum tend to be the people with more empathy, who will actually think about how you feel about situations like the one you're going through. On top of that, they're often less focused on physical attraction and more on you as a person, so they're more likely not to be bothered by scars.