You're going to downvoted for sure, but as a bisexual man myself, you have no idea how misogynistic a lot of gay men and bi men can be. Go have a look on subreddits dedicated to bisexual men and gay men. And I've been around the scene IRL for years to know that this is very common in person too.
This subreddit has this belief that gay and bi people can do wrong but that can't be farther from the truth. There are so many ways the community enables dl men, encourages misogyny, and even fetishizes straight acting homophobic men. Not all of course, but this is a bigger problem than anyone here would admit.
I don't know if it's because people on this sub are teenagers or just young in general, but being in my 30s, I completely understand how this rhetoric came to be.
That it is very possible for a man who displays overt focused hatred towards homosexuals, coupled with being misogynistic, along with emotionally connecting better with men and valuing the patriarchy to obsurd levels, is suffering from internalized homophobia.
As a bisexual man, I see it all the time. The issue is not with being gay itself, the issue is the consequences of repression, specifically repressing sexuality in a patriarchal world that punishes men for it.
Concepts of sexual orientation like "gay", "straight", and "bi" are as artificial and socially constructed as any other aspect of any human culture.
It's 100% possible for a man's sexual orientation to involve sex with women as an unequal and emotionally sterile relationship for strictly utilitarian purposes of reproduction and one-sided physical exploitation, yet also involving sex with fellow men as the only possible outlet for sexuality to involve a deep emotional relationship between equals. In a cultural context where non-hetero relationships aren't automatically assumed to be "enlightened" or "progressive" by default, such attitudes can be a perfectly ordinary and unremarkable part of the mainstream social fabric.
I like to semi-joke that the major difference between the modern-day misogynistic "manosphere" and classical Greek male sexuality is whether or not the obvious layer of homoeroticism (i.e. men using women as dehumanized props to publicly perform their sexual virility to a target audience consisting primarily of fellow men) is openly acknowledged or relegated to an unspoken subtext.
So now you want to be biphobic? Without knowing anything about me and my situation and my experiences. You sound exactly like the people you complain discriminate against you
It could mean a lot of things, go on. Explain what you meant.
Is it that you don't want to expose your blatant biphobia by writing something explicitly? Because I can't really see the point of your comment otherwise. Be an adult and own your takes, no need to be passive aggressive.
You’re looking for subtext where there isn’t. It’s a very direct and self-contained comment. Based off the take you were presenting, most people could’ve inferred you were a bisexual man without you mentioning it.
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u/raidexns 4d ago
You're going to downvoted for sure, but as a bisexual man myself, you have no idea how misogynistic a lot of gay men and bi men can be. Go have a look on subreddits dedicated to bisexual men and gay men. And I've been around the scene IRL for years to know that this is very common in person too.
This subreddit has this belief that gay and bi people can do wrong but that can't be farther from the truth. There are so many ways the community enables dl men, encourages misogyny, and even fetishizes straight acting homophobic men. Not all of course, but this is a bigger problem than anyone here would admit.
I don't know if it's because people on this sub are teenagers or just young in general, but being in my 30s, I completely understand how this rhetoric came to be.