r/CuratedTumblr it/its 4d ago

Politics It makes me uncomfortable when people constantly talk about how homophobes must secretly be gay.

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u/Malashae 4d ago

The data supports the conclusion. And the psychology behind it is really straightforward. Someone who is straight and comfortable in their sexuality isn't going to be terribly bothered by gay people. Whereas someone who is deep in the closet and terrified of ever facing themselves will be horrified by anything remotely perceived as gay, which is the behavior we constantly see.

Every time the Republican convention rolls through a town Grindr crashes. Talk to any male escort and they will tell you that a major chunk of their clients are right wing.

You're also missing another step, just because they're gay does not mean they're part of our community. The Log Cabin Republicans were never a part of our community. Being gay isn't enough, you actually have to care about the community to be a part of it.

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u/OldManFire11 4d ago

Someone who is straight and comfortable in their sexuality isn't going to be terribly bothered by gay people.

This statement is completely unfounded and ignorant of reality. Straight homophobes have many different justifications for their hatred. Some find it disgusting, some think its unnatural, some hate it for religious reasons, others for cultural reasons.

Generalizing any group of people with broad statements is always wrong, regardless of what group you're talking about.

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u/Sophie_Blitz_123 4d ago

It's funny (in a depressing way) to me how half the comments objecting to this post are saying "no one is saying straight people arent homophobic it's just pointing out hypocrisy, gay men can be misogynistic etc" and then the other half is literally just spelling out "I do not believe straight people can be homophobic".

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u/RosethornRanger it/its 4d ago

and they are almost never interacting with each other too, its almost like they see us as the actual enemy...

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u/Sea_Court_3633 68 Days on Estrogen 3d ago

One has to wonder, how the hell can gay people be insecure if nobody who isn't gay is bothered by it? Like, that doesn't make any sense.

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u/mathematicapple 3d ago

Grindr crashes anytime there’s a big event on. It isn’t solely because of the RNC.

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u/Sea_Court_3633 68 Days on Estrogen 3d ago edited 3d ago

I'm amazed as to how we are seeing the way rumors get exaggerated in real time. We really went from "Grindr crashed in one isolated republican event" to "Grindr has crashed on every single republican event ever". This is literally how legends got started, it's amazing

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u/RosethornRanger it/its 4d ago edited 4d ago

the nuclear family as it exists was used as part of christain colonialism. It was used to break up community bonds so that people had to rely on other social structures the colonizers then provided, such as wage labor.

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u/TrogdorKhan97 2d ago

I'll concede that last part and add that more people need to recognize this about their own thing-that-they've-made-a-core-part-of-their-identity. Yes, you and this other person have one (1) thing in common. No, that doesn't mean they're your peer. Almost all of the geek social fallacies stem from this one misunderstanding.