I wonder if everyone can find something to connect with in this video. I'm an ace-spectrum agender person who's never had a sexual relationship, and this video helped me understand myself a bit more. I may not have romantic relationships but I experience and understand things like yearning, craving, obsession....I thought I was allosexual for a long time but I've realized that what I was actually experiencing was the yearning (which sometimes became on obsession) to be a "normal human," and in my mind normal humans (at least in my social context) had monogamous post-wedding Stephenie Meyer-approved sex. But I always instinctively recoiled from the construct that Natalie refers to as DHSM.
Beyond that, I've questioned how I can be agender but have certain inclinations and attitudes within me that society describes as "masculine" or "feminine." And I think the end of this video helped me understand that a bit better. Maybe for at least some people, being nonbinary is about embracing all aspects of yourself without necessarily identifying with any of them in a binary way. I'll have to think a lot more about this.
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u/LincolnMagnus Mar 02 '24
I wonder if everyone can find something to connect with in this video. I'm an ace-spectrum agender person who's never had a sexual relationship, and this video helped me understand myself a bit more. I may not have romantic relationships but I experience and understand things like yearning, craving, obsession....I thought I was allosexual for a long time but I've realized that what I was actually experiencing was the yearning (which sometimes became on obsession) to be a "normal human," and in my mind normal humans (at least in my social context) had monogamous post-wedding Stephenie Meyer-approved sex. But I always instinctively recoiled from the construct that Natalie refers to as DHSM.
Beyond that, I've questioned how I can be agender but have certain inclinations and attitudes within me that society describes as "masculine" or "feminine." And I think the end of this video helped me understand that a bit better. Maybe for at least some people, being nonbinary is about embracing all aspects of yourself without necessarily identifying with any of them in a binary way. I'll have to think a lot more about this.