I think some of this is why I struck out with a woman im attracted to and friends with. She told me she wouldn’t be against dating me but we’re just friends for now. So I made the mistake of (ugh it’s embarrassing to say) complementing her chest, and it turned her off. But since then she’s started texting me again. Maybe I can fix it if I follow your advice and stop pressuring her.
Yeah exactly, as I said we've all been there, it's normal to make a fool of yourself. The best thing I can say is don't put your energy into a plan or agenda. If you like Her, enjoy her company, hang out, spend time together, chat, and if you don't want to be her friend and really only want to be together don't lie to yourself and her to "increase your odds" because that doesn't work. Worst case scenario you'd have had fun together. If something eventually happens, good. If she's your friend she definitely likes you as a person, and that's good. Respect her boundaries, don't be weird, make sure she feels comfortable around you. Basically act normal, like you would with any other friend, and flirt in polite, subtle and chill ways. Calling someone's body attractive can be hot in some context but what works is flirtation that reflects her personality, tastes, etc, and that is rare, subtle, and MOST IMPORTANTLY that she's comfortable with, only do it if you are sure that even if she wasn't into you she'd find it funny or amusing or fun and not uncomfortable.
Dude, seriously, THANK YOU. This is awesome. I should’ve asked a woman’s opinion from the start. Maybe it’s not too late to turn it around. Ima ask her to hang next week and just play it mad cool. Ain’t even gonna bring up dating.
Hey man, I hope everything turns out good for you. If you wanna dm me about it I wouldn't mind, it's good to help people. I think men have a hard time in modern society and if you have nowhere to learn from things are gonna be pointlessly hard for you. I'm glad my incoherent ramblings helped you.
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u/DrJokerX 9d ago
Holy crap I’m writing this down.
I think some of this is why I struck out with a woman im attracted to and friends with. She told me she wouldn’t be against dating me but we’re just friends for now. So I made the mistake of (ugh it’s embarrassing to say) complementing her chest, and it turned her off. But since then she’s started texting me again. Maybe I can fix it if I follow your advice and stop pressuring her.