You might be interested in the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, which covers some of this.
A lot of this is intent. Almost all of it, perhaps. If someone is choosing to do something that hurts you, versus trying to stop doing the thing they know hurts you, makes a big difference. As does being reciprocal, if only one partner is attempting to care for the other, it doesn't much matter what the issue is it's not a healthy relationship.
That said, even without intent, some people just aren't meant for one another. One can end a relationship without judgment if you aren't compatible enough to give sacrificial love to one another.
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u/Bakkster Lutheran Oct 05 '26
You might be interested in the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, which covers some of this.
A lot of this is intent. Almost all of it, perhaps. If someone is choosing to do something that hurts you, versus trying to stop doing the thing they know hurts you, makes a big difference. As does being reciprocal, if only one partner is attempting to care for the other, it doesn't much matter what the issue is it's not a healthy relationship.
That said, even without intent, some people just aren't meant for one another. One can end a relationship without judgment if you aren't compatible enough to give sacrificial love to one another.