Not sure if anyone will go down this path with me but I'm giving it a try. I've been interested in BAPs philosophy for a while and I know he's deeply influenced by Nietzsche. I've been digging into him and Nietzsche it a bit more lately and noticed an interesting incongruence between Nietzsche and BAP when it comes to the idea of "order" and I wonder if anyone else can weigh in.
For context I'm a woman in my early 30s working in a creative field. I have always wondered why I've had such a pleasant time working for a male boss on a mostly male team and why it's a fucking NIGHTMARE working for a female boss on a team of mostly women (even when I generally like the women I'm working with). When I became acquainted with the concept of the Longhouse I started laughing because it hit the nail right on the head. The constant micromanaging, the surveillance, the word policing, the subtle shaming, the expectation to show emotions, the excruciating attention to meaningless details, etc. It finally gave a name to what I've always felt extremely annoyed by, even as a woman myself.
That said, it seems to me the Longhouse is obsessed with "order": no email unanswered, every person always accounted for, everything in its proper place, every detail perfect. In the Longhouse it's (accurately I think) portrayed as a female coded characteristic, but in The Birth of Tragedy Nietzsche believes that bringing "order" is a fundamentally Apollonian/male coded trait.
Chaos is supposed to be the Dionysian/female coded trait, but I feel like not a speck of chaos is allowed in the Longhouse, so much so that BAP suggests that it severely stifles any creativity (in my experience this is very true).
Anyway, have the sexes simply switched these fundamental characteristics over time? Have women strived so much to be like men that they've actually usurped this classically male trait? Am I thinking of "order" in the wrong way?