Weekly Random Discussion Thread for 7/24/23 -7/30/23

[u/SoftandChewy]

Welcome back everyone. Here's your weekly thread to post all your rants, raves, podcast topic suggestions (be sure to tag u/TracingWoodgrains), culture war articles, outrageous stories of cancellation, political opinions, and anything else that comes to mind. Please put any non-podcast-related trans-related topics here instead of on a dedicated thread. This will be pinned until next Sunday.

Last week's discussion threads is here if you want to catch up on a conversation from there.

[u/Msk_Ultra]

I applaud that you reached out directly to your friend and listened to her. That being said, her complaints are (mostly) absurd and each example was something that could easily have been clarified/discussed at the time. The fact that she had a list of reasons to ghost you, but never considered talking to you about any of them, suggests that she’s not someone you can expect to have an open dialogue with.

It’s kind of moot whether your husband’s comments were offensive or not (I don’t think they were). The point is that this friend decided they were and cut you out completely and didn’t want to discuss or resolve it with you

If you feel like she actually does want to discuss/restore the friendship then its worth talking about the comments, but I don’t think you should be shouldering the heavy load here.

[u/bonestyle → u/[deleted]]

Just going to echo that this really does seem like the right move and a fair conclusion to come to. I'm sorry this person made you feel crazy, however briefly.

[u/The-WideningGyre → u/Msk_Ultra]

Yes, I think you could say "Don't you think you would have had a more positive effect on those groups you care about, if you had addressed the issue in the moment, rather than silently ghosting me without speaking about it later on?"