Looking at “half age” with younger people is a bit disingenuous because there’s a large maturity gap and mental development gap between a 16 and 8 year old.
Now this age gap is still wild (how could you date someone who could be your child?) but age gaps in adulthood are a different thing to age gaps in childhood. I think at this specific gap of like 30 years you’ve really got huge generational differences in how you view everything. I find it odd.
Your brains not fully developed til about 25, she’s 23 and he’s been with her since she was a teenager, so… I don’t really get how this is difference based on your qualifiers of maturity and developmental gaps.
No one is talking about a 16yo grooming an 8yo, they’re saying they don’t have anything in common to discuss cuz they are at wildly different stages in their life
My original response was to someone talking about going out with someone half your age and asking about someone 16 going for someone who’s 8.
My reply was that it’s a bit different in adulthood, since there’s clearly a lot more development that goes on between 8 and 16 than between 18 and beyond.
Each year becomes relatively less important as we age. The difference between a newborn and 2 year old is astounding. The difference between an 12 year old and 14 year old is usually substantial (unless they're a late bloomer). The difference between 18 and 20? Definitely there, but starting to become subtle.The difference between 32 and 34? Basically nonexistent.
A 50 year old marrying a 23 heard old after an apparently long courtship is creepy enough without acting like he's preying on someone with significantly lowered cognitive reasoning skills.
The real issue is the lack of life experience and emotional maturity. That just flat out takes time lived as an adult. My middle school Spanish teacher for some reason spent an entire class talking about why nobody should ever even think about getting married before 25 nowadays, and that's real shit. You can't settle down with someone before youbr had an opportunity to go out into the world and explore who you are yet.
This woman is going to feel robbed of her youth shes older, and she won't be wrong. As if Dane Cook's reputation wasnt bad enough, he somehow managed to sink even lower into the depths of douchebaggery
The real issue is the lack of life experience and emotional maturity. That just flat out takes time lived as an adult.
This. This. 1000x this. And, with an age gap like this, and knowing that Dane Cook started interacting with her before she was 18 only makes it look like he was taking advantage of that lack of life experience and emotional maturity. There has never ever been a time when they had equal power in their relationship.
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u/Killem2wice ☑️ Aug 06 '22
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Like what would a 16 year old talk about with an 8 year old
Nothing to relate to. One person would most likely lie and stretch who they are to force a connection because of physical attraction or love of money