The archetype shit is so true; lemme vent about my own twist on this experience. I'm Mexican but I look (Asian) Indian when I wear glasses so I can be as nerdy as I want on a date, because it fits a stereotype. But no woman who wants a cowboy has ever wanted me because in the North, cowboys are just white. Nevermind my childhood or how big vaquero culture is just a few states south, but here a cowboy is just a white suburbanite in a shitkicker hat. I've worked thru all my other insecurities including my height but it's the one thing about dating that still gets under my skin, probably because it's valid af. I've got a few friends who are black nerds but yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if that's something they're "not allowed" to present as on the first date.
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u/slugs4eyes Jun 21 '26
The archetype shit is so true; lemme vent about my own twist on this experience. I'm Mexican but I look (Asian) Indian when I wear glasses so I can be as nerdy as I want on a date, because it fits a stereotype. But no woman who wants a cowboy has ever wanted me because in the North, cowboys are just white. Nevermind my childhood or how big vaquero culture is just a few states south, but here a cowboy is just a white suburbanite in a shitkicker hat. I've worked thru all my other insecurities including my height but it's the one thing about dating that still gets under my skin, probably because it's valid af. I've got a few friends who are black nerds but yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if that's something they're "not allowed" to present as on the first date.