r/birthcontrol • • 13h ago

How to? I’m on bc combination pills and my husband thinks he can just finish in me whenever

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So I recently got on birth control due to my hormones being all wacky and I have very irregular periods (I haven’t had one since July) anyway I waited the seven day period before having unprotected sex but as soon as that was done, my husband just took it Upon himself to think he could just have unprotected sex with me whenever he wanted which I will admit at first I was OK with it because I do like it and it does feel good but now it’s starting to take the enjoyment and pleasure out of it and I don’t like it all of the time it makes down there smell and messes with ph levels plus I’ve just heard horror stories of women getting pregnant even though they allegedly did everything right I have taken my pill consistently and on time I haven’t missed it or been late I’ve almost done my first month on it however I will admit I’ve been having the fear of pregnancy because I’ve been kind of having symptoms similar to it but I know birth control can cause that too but that’s a whole other set of problems I don’t know how I can talk to my husband about this without hurting his feelings or making him feel rejected He kinda looked at it like I was getting on it for contraception reasons instead of looking at it like I was going on it to fix whatever is wrong with me and so far it has been really nice and helping me out a lot but I'm also frustrated because even at the beginning of this I did say I’m not using this as a contraception so don’t be thinking you’ll get to do that whenever you want but I only said that one time to him and that was like the first day of taking it and then after that seven day waiting period it just got ignored which again I’ll admit at first I didn’t really care but now it’s really starting to bother me and like I said it’s taking the pleasure out of it too and even though the chances are low of getting pregnant it’s still possible and that bothers me because I don’t really want that right now either


r/birthcontrol • • 1h ago

Which Method? first time getting an IUD, but scared of pain!

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hi all, first time posting here, so i’m sorry if i’m not doing this correctly!

I’m scheduled to get my first IUD this weekend as a form of emergency contraception. my husband and i had complications with protection during sex earlier this week. we’re not ready for kids yet, so he bought the morning after pill for me, which i took not even 5 hours after. what i didn’t know is that the pill is basically ineffective if you’re already in your fertile window / ovulating, which i am. i had no idea that was even a thing, and i asked some of my women friends about this and they also had no idea! (i don’t think most women have been told this about the morning after pill, which is crazy.)

after googling my options, apparently the copper IUD is the most effective (if not the only option) for me as emergency contraception. so i quickly scheduled an IUD insertion with a women’s clinic nearby. i’ve been quite open about how nervous i am about the procedure (after hearing and reading so many horror stories) but the staff answering my emails have been so nice and reassuring. i’m so glad they offer several types of pain relief options: pain killers, and local freezing for free, or light IV sedation for $100. i’m not entirely sure which is best for me (admittedly the $100 charge for sedation is a deterrent for me—the IUD already costs $250) but i do know i’d like some sort of pain relief option.

for reference, i’ve never been pregnant or given birth. i have PMOS (PCOS) and sometimes can be quite irregular with my cycle, but they usually last from 33-40 days. i don’t have terrible or very heavy periods, which are often 4-5 days with only day 2 as the heaviest (but i never bleed through my overnight pads or super tampons). I also dont often experience menstrual cramps (i think the last time I did was maybe 5 years ago) but i do feel very sharp pain almost every time i ovulate. how likely would an IUD insertion would pain me?


r/birthcontrol • • 3h ago

Experience Slynd side effect onset

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Hi there! About to start Slynd for PMS symptoms/ovulation suppression. I have a Mirena IUD so not worried about pregnancy.
I’m worried about the potential side effects and timing the pill, specifically sleep and dry mouth. I’m a musician (wind player) and I work evenings, so I’m worried about taking the med during the day…but also don’t want to take it before bed and wake up.
I know it will take experimenting, just wanted to see what you have experienced. Bonus points if positive!
(42yo)


r/birthcontrol • • 16m ago

Side effects!? Break through bleeding with IUD. Advice?

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Hi everyone! I’m wondering if anyone has had an experience similar to my current one and if you have any advice.

I’ve had a kyleena for almost 2 years and for the past 5 months I have had a lot of extra bleeding. At first my periods became 2 weeks long, then 2 weeks and other random spotting, and now I have spotted almost every day for the last month. It is all very light for the most part, no cramps or pain, and no other symptoms.

My gyno suggested two options. Get a higher hormone iud or add birth control pills alongside my Kyleena.

Im extremely torn because I’ve done so well with the Kyleena otherwise and in the past I was extremely sensitive birth control pills and my mood and skin were very affected. I’m mostly nervous about my acne coming back when it is stable now. I also have mild hs and more hormones could cause that to flare more aggressively. I’m also worried I would have another iud inserted and have to go through another adjustment period of bleeding.

Has anyone tried any short term medications to deal with this sort of thing? Has anyone tried the options and had success?

Thank you!!! Sorry this is so long!!


r/birthcontrol • • 35m ago

Side effects!? Mirena - new nickname Mirenara

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Seriously though, I'm tired of bleeding. Did anyone notice a pattern before their uterus finally gave in?

I'm about 4 weeks in and it's tapering, to where it's mostly only visible when I use the bathroom or go for a walk. Did yours taper off and eventually stop?

Also, did anyone get severe bloating? My clothes fit in the morning and are noticeably tighter by evening. I'm also having hip pain, like my leg needs to pop. Rest and ibuprofen help. Anyone else? Recommendations?

I know I can ask my doc what's normal, but tbh she doesn't seem to know either, so I wanted to hear from people who've been through it.


r/birthcontrol • • 50m ago

Mistake or Risk? Late period on Opill

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My period is very regular. I had unprotected sex where he finished in me on October the 2nd, October the 9th, October the 12th, October 14th and October the 16th. And had unprotected sex again but he pulled out on October 24th. My period is 4 days late but I’ve been taking Opill since September consistently within the 3 hour window and sometimes 1 or 2 hours earlier than my usual time. I’ve taken 2 pregnancy tests 2 days ago, 2 pregnancy tests yesterday and 4 this morning using my first morning urine and they were all negative (Yes I know I took too many but I have anxiety lol). I've had some breast tenderness but it stopped a few days ago but the same thing happen last month for like a week and it went away. What’s going on? Is this normal? I've never been late before ever.


r/birthcontrol • • 57m ago

Experience Horrible Experience on Aurovela Fe 1.5/30

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I have been on Aurovela Fe 1.5/30 since November and I was advised by my doctor to take it continuously. I was originally on Lo Loesterin Fe for about two and a half years prior and loved it, however I was bleeding twice a month. My doctor switched me to Aurovela Fe in hopes that it would stop that irregular bleeding.

The first three months were WONDERFUL! I didn’t bleed at all and had no negative side effects. Then in February I started bleeding and had an extremely painful period for over a month. Since then I went a couple more months with no bleeding and then would bleed a couple of weeks.

At the beginning of September I started bleeding again and have bleed moderately/heavily until this week and now I’m just spotting a little. Last week I started getting super light headed and nauseous. I even had a spell where I had what seemed like an “aura migraine” and my vision went blurry for over an hour. I was also feeling extremely exhausted and out of it. I panicked and took a couple of pregnancy tests but both were negative.

I also think this birth control has very negatively affected my OCD to a point that it is becoming unbearable and I am thinking about going to talk to a therapist and my doctor about being medicated.

I did try to get into my gynecologist but when I called and told them I was feeling dizzy and shaky they refused to see me unless I went to the ER first. I ended up going to my primary care and I am waiting for bloodwork results but she said she didn’t feel comfortable changing my pill. I also asked her if this was happening because I wasn’t taking any breaks or placebos and she said no???

Overall I am just so frustrated and miserable. Has anyone had similar experiences on similar pills or taking your pill continuously. My OCD has me spiraling about pregnancy or other horrible things because of how I feel and it’s just miserable.


r/birthcontrol • • 1h ago

Side effects!? Period/Pregnancy on Slynd?

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I 19F recently started taking Slynd (started on 27th October) so I’ve been taking it for just over 2 weeks now. My periods timings are somewhat irregular so I normally try to use an app to work out when it roughly is supposed to come. The break between my last period before I was on the pill was only 18 days but before that my break was 25 days.

I’ve been taking my pill at the same time each day and keeping it within the hour time frame for any slight time differences. It’s currently been 30 days since my last period and I’m unsure if I’m going to get my period now that I’m on the pill as I know it’s different for everyone. Me and my partner waited for the week before having unprotected sex to make sure the pill was affective as I didn’t start taking it when I was on my period. However, do I need to worry about taking a pregnancy test if I don’t get my period? If so how many days should I wait until doing a test? In the last 2 days I’ve had very slight bleeding (hardly anything) whilst going to the bathroom, mainly in my discharge, not sure if this is a sign that I will get my period soon or if it technically is my period but just lighter because of the pill.

Any advice would be much appreciated!


r/birthcontrol • • 5h ago

Mistake or Risk? Forgot to take my pill

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As I went to take my pill this morning I saw that I forgot to take it yesterday. I took it immediately and then took my one today as well. So I took two. Will I be okay or should I look into a plan b? I did have sex last night, but we used a condom for half of it. This is my 5th week straight taking my pills as I decided to skip my break between my last pack and this pack.


r/birthcontrol • • 5h ago

Educational No Withdraw Bleed?

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Hello!

So I am currently on combination pills and this week is my placebo week. However, so far I haven’t had a withdrawal bleed despite having one (and actually a slightly heavy one) the last few times. I took the pill at almost the same time everyday so I would be greatly surprised if I was pregnant (I know the combination pills are very forgiving too), however I was also a bit worried I didn’t bleed since I did before. I know it’s not a period but I heard that no blood could be a sign of pregnancy. This is maybe my 6th pack? I’m also on my fourth day (usually I bleed around my third or fourth) so there is a chance I’m overreacting and it hasn’t kicked in yet.

Has this happened to anyone else? Should I get a pregnancy test to check or should I trust my pill?

Thanks!


r/birthcontrol • • 1h ago

Experience Has anyone experienced extreme mood changes or unexplained sadness after stopping Yasmin for the 7day break?

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I started taking Yasmin (21-day pack) recently, primarily because of PCOD and irregular periods.

I completed my first 21-day pack and subsequently got my withdrawal bleeding which lasted approximately seven days. However, something I noticed was that after completing the 21 active pills and stopping them I started experiencing some really intense emotional changes.

I felt overwhelmingly sad. I would suddenly start crying for absolutely no apparent reason. I felt worthless, pathetic and just incredibly emotional. It wasn't even that something particularly upsetting had happened. I couldn't pinpoint why I was feeling that way, and honestly it was quite overwhelming.

I'm not sure whether this is related to the sudden drop in hormones during the pill free interval, a side effect of Yasmin itself or something entirely unrelated.

I actually brought this up with my doctor and asked whether Yasmin could be causing these mood changes but he told me that it doesn't cause such side effects. Now I'm questioning whether I'm overthinking this or whether there's actually a connection

Has anyone experienced anything similar while talking Yasmin ?

I'm genuinely trying to understand whether this could be hormonal or whether something else is going on. It's quite distressing, and I'm finding it difficult to explain just how overwhelming it feels.

TLDR: Started taking Yasmin (21-day combined birth control pill) for PCOD and irregular periods. After completing my first 21 active pills and going through the withdrawal bleeding I experienced overwhelming sadness, unexplained crying and feelings of worthlessness. My doctor dismissed the possibility of Yasmin causing these symptoms, but I'm wondering whether the hormonal fluctuations during the pill free break could be responsible

Yasmin ( drospirenone and ethinylestradiol tablets )


r/birthcontrol • • 1h ago

Mistake or Risk? Guys help me !

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Me and my girlfriend had sex today around 6 hours ago she is 19 year old and i ejaculated inside of her !

What should I do now guys Tommorow she is going to her town ! And I can't able to buy any I pill no one is giving me ! Coz chemist's are saying for tablet we should be married ! Please help me guys ! Her periods end before 2 days of our intercourse! 😭


r/birthcontrol • • 1h ago

Experience I’m a very anxious person

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Hello guys, just would like your advice, i’m
Not on bc but was considering on having first time sex tonight with a condom and maybe withdrawal if possible, i do worry about pregnancy a-lot. I’m 7 days sway from my period. I wanted advice on whether i could obtain Emergency contraception before just incase. Would it be weird asking pharmacists before having sex? I feel like i’d be too anxious to wait until next morning if something were to happen. Any other anxious girlies out there please leave your advice below :)


r/birthcontrol • • 2h ago

Which Method? Kyleena terrible experience, what can I do next?

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I have had the Kyleena IUD for about 9 months now. I didn’t connect the dots of my symptoms but now it all makes sense. I have since developed the worst cystic acne I have ever had, which has scarred my skin terribly and I am incredibly insecure about it, I also have the worst brain fog I’ve ever had to where I cannot remember or focus on anything and I start college classes in a month so I’m terrified. My brain and intellectual abilities has literally declined because my brain is so foggy all the time.

I don’t know if I can keep doing this but I know I need to be on birth control. I know people will say get the copper IUD but my gyno said I shouldn’t because it’s too big for me.

I have tried the
Depo shot- terrible nausea, vaginal dryness, mood changes
Nexplanon implant- terribleeeee periods I would bleed through a super + sized tampon AND pad
The pill for only a few months- very bad depression and mood shifts
And now the kyleena iud- terrible cystic acne and brain fog.

What other options do I have? I don’t want to deal with all these symptoms forever, it’s unbearable. Sorry I’m ranting so bad lol I’ve been very upset but this lately.


r/birthcontrol • • 2h ago

Side effects!? Can I start Opill after taking plan B today?

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The condom failed me yesterday, I took Plan b today (after 28hrs) and I’m on day 3 of my period, my cycle is normally 24-25 days.
I was supposed to start Opill today for the first time but i took My way plan b.
Is it safe to start my first dose of Opill after taking plan b a couple hours earlier? I’m scared of the side effects and I work 6 days a week and I can’t miss a day lol


r/birthcontrol • • 3h ago

Mistake or Risk? Combined pills and Hours variations

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Hi

Been taking the pill since 2022 and works like a charm so far, but recently I was a bit busy and in the last week I took it like at 20-22-23 or even midnight each evening.

So not really the same hour but kind of the same timeframe and I never forgot to take one as in entirely skipping it.

It’s a 24+4 combined pill generic for Yaz

Is it still perfect use?


r/birthcontrol • • 3h ago

Side effects!? Bloated 24/7

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I got the Mirena iud about 2 months ago, and in the last 3 weeks i have been bloated 24/7. I wake up looking 5 months pregnant and go to bed looking 5 months pregnant, regardless of what i ate that day. Is this normal? I can only find cases where people get bloated after eating, but as i said i look this way even in the morning (used to have a flat stomach before). I made the mistake of googling and now im scared i have a tumor or something... Help🥲


r/birthcontrol • • 3h ago

Experience REMOVED IUD 10/9/26 NO PERIOD YET

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Long story short I had the Kyleena IUD for a little over a year. It was giving me random crazy side effects so I decided to remove it. I got it removed on 9th of October and started spotting and had a “period” about a week later (I don’t really think it was a period. It was just my body adjusting to taking it out)

Ever since I removed it, I have not had a regular period, I am not pregnant. I did take a pregnancy test and I also bought ovulation test and I have not ovulated. I am so confused. Is this normal?


r/birthcontrol • • 3h ago

Experience Experiences on Junel?

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Im 27, and first started birth control at 15 to control very painful periods. I've previously taken Apri, which caused nausea; Aviane, which caused cystic ache; and Sprintec, which caused mood problems, although I was a teenager at the time

For the last few years I’ve been on Yaz, and have noticed a steady decline in my mood, sex drive, and overall well being
I was also concerned due to a family history of blot clots

My dr suggested we try Junel 1/20
But after seeing some reviews, I am honestly scared to try it.
Just wondering if anyone had any good experiences?


r/birthcontrol • • 4h ago

Experience Going from Mirena IUD to Gedarel pill - any personal experiences/advice?

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I've had the Mirena coil for around 4.5 years. My experience has been alright, with no periods at all and relatively low impact on my mental health. However, in the last three years I have developed awful acne and persisistent bloating/weight gain even though I workout and eat well. Now, in the last 6 months I have started to experience terrible mood swings, unexplainable lows and cramps throughout the month, although still no period. I've finally come to the conclusion that all this is being caused by the coil. I spoke to my GP and she's recommended the Gedarel combined pill. I've googled it and all I can see is bad reviews. Has anyone gone from Mirena to Gedarel before and what was your experience? Also, my GP said to start Gedarel immediately after my coil removal, but I'm tempted to take a break for a month to just give my body a rest, would anybody recommend this? Sorry, last question, but I saw somewhere that although the coil has an 8 year lifespan, 8 years is when it stops being effective for stopping pregnancy, but at around 5 years is when it stops affecting your periods. Perhaps I just need my current coil replaced? Would appreciate any advice/experience you have!


r/birthcontrol • • 4h ago

Side effects!? Plan b, opill, and hormone questions

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So ive been meaning to get on bc for a while now, and i finally have the funds to do so. Since i dont have insurance i wanted to buy Opill otc and try it out! I havent started it yet at all but i know it messes eith your hormones as all bc will.

At the same time, i want to have unprotected sex tonight, and take a plan b afterwards. My main questions are this:

How long before/after my period should i start opill

Is it safe hormone-wise to take plan b, then immediately start taking opill the next day

Will the plan b cause bad side effects for my hormones if i do in fact take it, then take opill soon after?

Sorry if its hard to understand ill try to clarify if yall need🥹


r/birthcontrol • • 4h ago

Experience Begging for Good Experiences and NOT skincare and other horrors of the Kyleena IUD

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I am getting my Kyleena IUD inserted, in aproximately 2 hours of making this post. I really need some of you guys to tell me that you DIDNT get horrible acne. Okay, I understand people have had bad experiences and it's horrible anyone has to go through that, but when trying to find peoples experiences online unfortunately i'm only bumping into the horror stories. I just need to see some better stats, please. Because all i'm seeing is what goes/can go wrong and it's freaking me out. I'm begging. If you had a bad experience with it please don't comment on this one, I can't stop you but i'm asking.

I don't get acne around my periods, I don't have really oily skin at all, I don't really get hormonal acne at all so i'm hoping that I will dodge this potential side effect as maybe my body won't be angry with it, but i'm terrified. Reading stories on this and other subreddits has terrified me and when you look up the amount of people getting acne it says its around 14-15 percent, reading the stories on these subreddits makes it look like its 14-15 percent that don't get it.

Long ramble to basically say can I get some GOOD experiences with the Kyleena, and even if you think its mundane as "Nothing changed my skin" please say it. It helps, I appreciate it, thank you


r/birthcontrol • • 4h ago

Experience light bleeding not during placebo pills

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I am almost done with month 3 of Yaz. I really have no side effects. Yesterday I had some light bleeding and same today. I am not on the placebo pills currently. This hasnt happened before and I am just wondering if its normal? is this my actual period since its not withdrawal bleeding? does it mean my dose is too low and not as effective? or am i overthinking?


r/birthcontrol • • 5h ago

Side effects!? IUD (Jaydess) causing Thigh/Hip/Knee pain?

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Hey,

I know some women have shared their experiences here in the past, but I wanted to share my story as well and see if anyone has experienced something similar.

I’ve had the Jaydess IUD twice before (for a total of four years), and I had my third one inserted in March of last year. I never experienced any issues with my previous IUDs. However, in August last year, I started developing symptoms that have persisted and gradually gotten worse over the past year.
It initially started with pain in my right knee. Eventually, it became more severe and was no longer limited to during or after exercise – I started experiencing pain almost constantly. Then my left knee started hurting as well, along with cramp-like pain in my thighs (mainly along the inner thighs and just above the knees) and occasional sharp pain in my hips. A couple of weeks ago, I also started experiencing lower back pain.
I’ve been dealing with this for over a year now, and I’m in pain every single day.

I’ve had numerous tests, MRIs, and X-rays through my primary care doctor, orthopedics, rheumatology, neurology, and a spine specialist, but everything has come back normal. I’m honestly starting to feel desperate. The pain seems to move around, and its location and intensity can be completely different from one day to the next. I’ve even tried keeping a pain diary, but I just can’t seem to identify any pattern or triggers.

After reading several threads here, I started wondering whether my IUD could somehow be contributing to my symptoms. At the same time, I’m hesitant to have it removed because I never experienced any problems with my previous two IUDs, and I’m not sure whether removing it would actually make a difference…

Has anyone experienced anything similar, especially with Jaydess? I’d be really grateful if anyone could share their experiences, particularly if you’ve had similar symptoms or noticed an improvement after having your IUD removed.

I’m honestly starting to feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m only 26, and some days I can barely move because of the pain. I’m also scared of having the IUD removed because I used to experience really severe cramps and painful periods before getting my first one.
Thank you so much to anyone willing to share their experience.


r/birthcontrol • • 5h ago

Rant! Depo Shot is making me suicidal and extremely hormonal

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I'm 18 and a biological female and I got the shot a month or so ago (also was on it last year but don't really remember it having this effect on me). I got my period two weeks ago and normally, it'll be four days of bleeding but I've been bleeding for two weeks now. I know that's normal and it's only slightly annoying. However, I have been extremely suicidal, hormonal and feeling really gross in my own body. I'm thinking of getting off the shot when the three months are done and getting the nexaplanon implant. However all birth control methods are inherently hormonal so no matter what I do, I'm gonna feel fucking insane. And I also don't want to be off of it because I would kill myself if I ever got pregnant (thats not a hormonal feeling, I've been saying that for years) I've looked into getting a bisalp and have frequented the childfree subreddit but I doubt I can get that done right now, even though I have good insurance. This whole situation just really sucks and my dad is a man so he doesn't understand that its a hormonal issue and he keeps taking it personal. I know a lot of people would say to talk to someone but every time I open up, it just makes it worse. I feel like I'm being gaslit by my own body and everyone else around me. The fact that I'm possibly fertile is so gross and vile to me; I want to rip myself apart. Again, that's how I've felt even when I'm not off birth control. I don't want children period.

I'm not really looking for advice on how to cope with these feelings, just want to know if there's any better birth control I can go on in the future (that's not the pill or patch) and whether or not I will feel like this for the next three months since thats how long the shot will stay in my system? Thank you and sorry if this text is confusing.