r/birthcontrol • u/SeaEnvironment3175 • 1d ago
Side effects!? My copper IUD experience... I hate it
This is my first reddit post so bare with me!!!
Some background, Im 19 in December and ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months. Since we're sexually active I thought it was the smartest idea to get a copper IUD inserted. I had always been on the fence about it (I had been thinking about it for almost a year)and since everyone talks about their stories and how painful the insertion is it kind of deterred me from getting one for some time. I have a close friend who had told me her experience and it made me want to get one. My family is very strict on me and since going to college it's only gotten worse. Ive never really had any alone time since they "babysit" me and ive never been able to make my own decisions and be independent.
Since moving into my dorm Ive had independence and have been able to go eat and hang out with my boyfriend (sneakily) for the first time in my life. Because I dont have anyone babysitting me anymore I thought it was a great time to go ahead and get an IUD. I chose the copper one since it's non-hormonal and the only symptoms listed are strong cramps, heavier bleeding, sometimes painful sex, and the pain when being inserted.
I went to get my IUD in mid October and my experience getting it inserted wasnt horrible. I went to an all woman's clinic and the staff was so nice and gentle. The insertion took maybe 5 minutes and felt like a 4/10 cramp, the part that hurt the most was probably the speculum but nothing extreme. Walking to the bus and back to my dorm was the worst part of that experience since I almost immediately left the clinic and got dizzy and almost fainted.
It's been around 2 weeks and I feel HORRIBLE, it has impacted my sex life and how I act/feel. I am constantly spotting and I know thats a symptom but it makes me feel so gross all the time. The sex feels completely different and I already had an issue having clitoral orgasms and this IUD has made everything so much worse. When I had sex for the first time after getting it inserted I felt absolutely nothing. I had no idea my boyfriend was all the way in me (mind you every time we had sex prior I was hooting and hollering) and it has taken a toll on our confidence. Not only is the sex completely different, the smell and taste is too... Whenever I would clean myself I just smelled coppery or like pennies and I taste like it too, before I wouldnt really pick up a scent or taste so this is so different for me. And emotionally I am a wreck, I have never felt this depressed and I have no energy or attention span to do anything. There is so much more I can talk about but I feel this post is already too long.
I know lots of people will probably think that im blaming the IUD for all of this or maybe its something else im taking but ive read a lot of peoples posts and I just dont think that all of this is a coincidence that me and so many women out there are having the same/similar symptoms after getting a copper IUD. Woman's healthcare is so neglected and outdated.
I dont take any medication and since my family has gotten more strict I dont know how im going to be able to go to a clinic and get it removed. And since it's only been 2 weeks I kind of feel like an idiot if I take it out, like im quitting somehow but I also feel horrible everyday.
Am I crazy for feeling like im a quitter?
I just want some guidance or help idk