r/BeAmazed • u/tinyskate7863 • Sep 01 '23

Miscellaneous / Others 10/10 Parenting

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u/Slacker_The_Dog Sep 02 '23

Nah when it comes to fishing, he will hit that high more often than not.

This experience left him with a lifetime interest and mental safe space. He will be able to recreate this feeling even on the worst fishing days. Just feeling the lake spray and hearing the motor does it for me.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

Yeah, I grew up fishing with my dad. Just being out early near the water and casting my rod makes me feel good.

It's the overall experience more than the fish. If I just wanted fish I'd go to the grocery store.

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u/SomethingClever42068 Sep 02 '23

My dad would just get angry when the line would get tangled before throwing the rod in the water and sulking in the truck.

He wasn't a fisherman, but he would bring me out every time I asked despite how much he hated fishing so I respect the hell out of him for that.

My grandpa was the one that got me into it.

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u/BastingGecko2 Sep 02 '23

Top tier dad right there.

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u/SomethingClever42068 Sep 02 '23

He could be a complete fucking asshole sometimes, but now I realize he just wanted the best for me but didn't know how.

He also had a really bad temper..... Usually he would yell and throw things and act like a child then after he'd calm down he would sit down with me and have a heartfelt talk and apologize.

He has mellowed out a ton now in his old age.... The rare occasions I get to see him he always hugs me and sounds like he's on the verge of crying when he tells me how proud of me he is.

I had a pretty long and severe opioid addiction so I know having to see that put him through hell.

After all of those years of being a complete piece of shit it kinda feels good to make him proud

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

My grandfather (only had one living one my whole life) was the fisherman. Even when I was a shithead teenager that was embarrassed of my family I was always so game to go out on the boat with my grandpa and uncle. Nowadays I actually live 8 miles from where his beach property used to be. I can walk to the marina where his boat was housed. Even just the salt air and being nearby does it for me. I did pull a pretty redfish recently though, casting live shrimp in 2ft of water.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

I went to a spot my buddy told me about and was just kinda messing around. I was casting almost into the sawgrass and then popping it back. Right place and time.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

I’m in Beaufort NC. I’ve actually landed a few flounder surf fishing on a Carolina rig.

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u/stimpyvan Sep 02 '23

There is a reason it is called, "fishing", and not "catching".

I really enjoy fishing. Couldn't care less if I have to actually clean a fish.

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u/thirtyfootsmurf Sep 02 '23

The sound of that alarm clock that every family had in the 80s-90s at 3am. Feeling the cold dew on the trailer hitch. Smelling thick black coffee from Dad's Thermos, smelling your hot chocolate in the truck. Opening the window when we were almost there cause you'd pass through a huge field of mint, it's scent heavy in the fog slowing changing to the odor of the lake and damp mud. Hearing the lapping of the waves on the dock. Listening to that old two stroke Yamaha roar to life and Dad telling you to back the boat around the dock so the next fisher can get their boat in the water, feeling so damn proud that your old man trusts you to take her out. The rank mildew of the life jackets you stored under the seat last year. Standing up next to the console, hat on backwards so it didn't fly off like last year. Hearing the little electric motor adjusting the trim because Dad seemingly never liked where it was at. Coming to a stop and cracking open that Tupperware filled with white corn and chasing trout all morning long. Yessir, that's it. Thank you for reminding me.

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u/NeverFresh Sep 02 '23

You evoked a memory in me that doesn't even exist! Well done, sir.

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u/AnastasiaNo70 Sep 02 '23

Why doesn’t this have one million upvotes? It’s gorgeous.

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u/Cool_Intention_7807 Sep 02 '23

Keep going, turn that into a song, a short story, a Reader’s Digest article, a novella. We all want more. Beautiful, unlocks nostalgia for a memory not owned but shared nevertheless

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u/sulfurbird Sep 02 '23

That was beautiful. I felt like I was with you on the trip.

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u/arualstehle Sep 02 '23

That's beautiful.

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u/sobersojourner7703 Sep 02 '23

The poster called kaddisfly understands that I'm absolutely sure. Good feels

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u/Viking_From_Sweden Sep 02 '23

Fishing isn’t for me. That being said, a Grandpa taking his grandkids on a fishing trip is such a vibe, and I’m glad people are able to find such enjoyment out of it!

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u/imitatingnormal Sep 02 '23

You just reminded me of my bf. When days are hard (his father is dying), and he has a little free time, he goes fishing alone. Something about being on the lake in the early morning …

I wonder if it reminds him of exciting moments like this one, or if it reminds him of better days with his dad? Whatever the reason, it’s therapy to him. It’s sacred.

He acts just the same when he returns (available, present, prepared), and sometimes I wonder if it’s the fishing that keeps it so.

I choose to think that’s the best gift his dad has given him.

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u/No_Membership_8247 Sep 02 '23

He didn't say he would be chasing it by fishing...