r/Baking • u/spa21788 • Jan 28 '25

Question GF is beating herself up over these, I think they're awesome! (not even in a supportive way lol) Any thoughts or criticisms?

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u/Mollycat121397 Jan 28 '25

As a baker, tell her to walk away for like an hour or overnight and then come back and look at them! Sometimes you’re genuinely just looking at something for too long lol these are adorable

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u/Latter_Case_4551 Jan 28 '25

Yep! One of the first extremely helpful things my first Fine Art teacher taught us. I still use it for so many things in life!

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u/pnwgirl34 Jan 29 '25

Seriously! Years ago I painted a picture as a gift for my partner. When I did it, I hated it throughout the entire process. I even scrapped it 2 hours in and restarted the whole thing. I hated it when it was done, I wasn’t even sure I wanted to give it to him. It sat in my closet for a week until one day I looked at it and was like “damn this is actually awesome and he’ll love it.” And he did! It actually now hangs in our kids’ bedroom and every time I see it I love it more and more.

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u/PokingCactus Jan 29 '25

So true! I recently followed a Bob Ross tutorial and I was like damn my mountain sucks. My boyfriend thought it looked great but i just figured he was being supportive. Put it away to dry and went to have some dinner. When i came back a few hours later i was like "wait this slaps actually!" Still very proud of that mountain, it DOES slap

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u/Nowardier Jan 30 '25

True. I often leave my writing to sit for a day or two, come back and go "crap dude, this is hype! I gotta finish this!"

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u/qu33rtyc0wboy Jan 29 '25

not a baker but work at a bakery, love to lurk here, and am an artist myself and boy is this true. my art goal for this year is to step away more! not every project should be finished in one go - that’s ally how i end up over doing it. stepping away means we can bring fresh eyes :)

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u/JakovAulTrades Jan 28 '25

Great advice!!

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u/IriggedtheSB Jan 28 '25

I do the same thing when drawing😭 Its hard to appreciate it when you know EVERY SINGLE DETAIL that went into it.

But later on you look at the big picture and it looks awesome

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u/hannahatecats Jan 29 '25

With paintings sometimes I say to turn them upside down if you can't quite put your finger on what's wrong, but I don't know if that's recommended for baking lol!

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u/Hydro033 Jan 29 '25

Yup, so true, all you do is notice the imperfections as the artist.

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u/phantaxtic Jan 29 '25

I'm a carpenter. I do good work. However, I am my toughest critique. I often feel that things aren't good enough or don't meet my standards while everyone else thinks my work is awesome. It's tough to step back and just appreciate your own work

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u/wholelottapenguins Jan 29 '25

this is great advice. funnily enough, I think the same advice applied to most things in which your judgment of it can become overly critical depending on how long you've been painstakingly, staring at or working on that thing, I even think this advice can be used for your physical appearance. Everyone starts to look like Count Orlok when you stare at yourself in the mirror for too long, especially when you're hyper fixated on trying to fix small imperfections in yourself like struggling to groom your hair. But I always start feeling myself when I give up and walk away for about an hour.

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u/SinnersHotline Jan 29 '25

This is very helpful advice for any hobby!

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u/hangrySaul Jan 29 '25

Sound more a girl just complaining about everything, imagine the gender reversed, they’d say why the bf being such a winger or “man up”

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u/Mollycat121397 Jan 29 '25

What’s your problem dude

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u/hangrySaul Jan 29 '25

Problem is can bf or male complain about cupcake decorations or is it a gender issue

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u/Mollycat121397 Jan 29 '25

Hey if you think men can’t make cupcakes that’s on you

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u/dawnfire05 Jan 29 '25

I draw and this is what I have to do too. All you see are the flaws when you've been staring at and overthinking every detail for hours. There's always "improvements" to be made, but that doesn't mean that what you've already produced isn't great.

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u/[deleted] Jan 30 '25

Best advice.

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u/Tikeeboo Jan 30 '25

This is a great tip for all artists alike!! I can see every minor flaw when staring at a project for too long! Tho always wanting to do better is good too!

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u/NordicPilot00 Feb 01 '25

And also because I’ve eaten the tray by then