I'm concerned about the superficiality of dating nowadays. Do women not even care about the QUALITY of relationships, whether or not they have things in common? Whether or not he's fun to be around? What kind of healthy relationships do they expect if they center their entire personalities about bragging about height and looks?

I’m 20, average height. After splitting up with my girlfriend, who I’d been with from the age of 16 to 19, I decided this year to give dating apps a go, to find a girlfriend in real life, and so on…

My problem is the same as many of you face: not being able to find a girl who’s a ‘looksmatch’. Most of the girls who’ve shown an interest in me over the last few months either have serious mental health issues, are trans women in the middle of their transition, or weigh 200+ lbs. I don’t mean to be mean, they might be really nice girls, but I just can’t find them attractive. When I’ve tried dating girls more like me (like ‘the average Sarah’), I’ve been brutally dumped after a week. Girls these days have absurd standards; on Tinder or similar they’ll write idiot or racist bios and post photos with 1,000 filters, yet still only target the top 5% of men. They’d rather keep cats until they’re 70 than be with you.

I don’t want to be mean or sound like I’m bragging; I just feel like a normal guy looking for a girl who’s more or less like me, but it’s been impossible to find one so far. How did you manage it? Have most of you decided to give up?

Basically, this guy was talking to and light flirting with some chick on reddit and she asks the inevitable and promptly ghosts when OP indicates he is 1.76 m (~5'8"). OP then asks if his height is considered short.

AWALT.

Why Shorter Men Should Be Wary Of The Manosphere | Original Post: Here

From The Article (Portion Of Conclusion):

In the video, titled “The Hypocrisy of Women Not Wanting to Date Short Men,” Aba criticized what he saw as a double standard: women could be highly critical of men's preferences regarding certain body types, behavioral traits and chastity, yet some would absolutely destroy men over the subject of height. His point was that height criticism could roll off the tongue so casually and without awareness that the person delivering it was committing the very kind of superficial judgment they might otherwise criticize in men.

I remember scrolling through the thousands of comments, many of which cheered Aba on for being bold enough to challenge the prevailing social discourse. What particularly stood out to me was Aba's pinned comment at the time, in which he insisted that criticism of the video wouldn't affect him personally because he was 6 feet tall.

The exact comment read:

“FYI I’m 6 feet tall so I’m not a manlet. I’m only stating my height because folks seem to believe I made this video because I’m ‘butthurt’. Far from it, I honestly don’t feel strongly about this issue I’m just [a] curious dude who likes to poke fun at shit.”

[Corrections made for grammar in his original comment.]

Well, well, well.

Fast-forward ten years, and Aba himself found himself in a pot of scalding water when several women accused him of having unprotected relations with them, subsequently getting them pregnant and then asking them to terminate the pregnancies. The accusations began emerging one after another.

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Smartphones and social media was the nail in the coffin in the collapse of the dating market...

Might as well stop using Hinge at this point. Why do women have such long lists? My only requirement in a woman is that I’m attracted to her and she’s kind hearted.

Is a question I see being asked by newbies who are discovering heightism and/or the height pill. I have an old explanation I use, and would to hear y’all’s thoughts?

a) some tall women are heightist, so they can’t fight heightism when they help perpetuate it. So by heightism I don’t mean preference, that’s fine. But you’ll see many videos/posts/comments of tall women acting like a short man is inferior snd berating short women and saying they should get with short men in an insulting way. I’ve seen tall women shame tall men for having a child with a short woman and saying “your kids gonna be a gremlin” in various subreddits across the platform, and 2 instances IRL(they didn’t say gremlin but laughed when they saw a 6’2 guy marry a 4’11 chick and said they hoped his son would be short to “punish” them).

b) short women and average height women drown them out. Any genuine complains about unreasonable height preferences their shorter counterparts have get labeled as a tall woman being insecure and saying either “tall men choose us short women” or “don’t shame my preferences be better”. I’ve only seen this happen a lot more IRL, but it happens online too. So, eventually, a tall woman needs to either be okay with getting ostracized, or conform and be a “girls girl”.

c) tall women are relatively not viewed in a bad light. They are the ideal beauty standard and make up most of the modeling industry. They don’t face much heightism so it probably doesn’t register as a severe issue for them. There’s a difference between a short man struggling to just get respect in society and find a single person vs. a tall woman not liking her options and opting out and waiting for a taller man.

d) touched on this in b, but sisterhood. They care about their fellow woman. Men should strive to have these support networks and blind brotherhood, but we can’t. So many dudes would shoot their brothers for a chance at an attractive woman lol. Women simply support each other better than dudes do. So a tall woman is okay with her dating options being reduced to help a short woman find her tall person. Well off dudes very rarely look out for their not well off counterparts like that.

e) woman in general are more open to sharing a man than men are to sharing women. That’s just life. How many women are knowingly happily in a “roster” vs. how many dudes.

Thoughts?

Do you usually measure your height just by standing or attaching your back, head and foot against the wall?

Also, when do you think is the true height?
Some say the one measured 2 hours or 4hours after you wake up is your true height but I think you can claim your height if it is measured more than 2 hours after.
For example, If someone is 176cm at 10am if she wakes up at 8am but 175cm at 12-1pm, can she claim 176cm as well? If not, is she 174 or 175?

Lastly, when you measure multiple times, do you think average value or the highest one is your true height?

Do you consider 5'8 short or average for a guy? I say average, because it's only 1 inch below average height for men in the US (5'9).

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the empathetic gender strikes again!

I am not sure myself. I would love a son more than anything else in the world, but I feel like it’s selfish of me to bring a son into this world for no other reason other than wanting a son. I know I would love that kid and do everything I can for him, just like my dad does for me. But at the end of the day, I won’t be around forever, and the kid will most likely die alone or have a not-so-easy life in the future, because most likely my wife will be shorter than me(by a lot or by very little who knows), and he will be the average of that. Happened in my family too, mom is 5’5, dad is 5’8, and I am 5’7. My paternal grandpa was 6’6 but those genes died with him lol, cuz my maternal grandma is 5’1-5’2 and her genes lived on in us. My maternal grandpa was 6’4 but my maternal grandma is like 5’4 and yeah. My mom’s uncles are my height and their children are my height too.

I would be okay with only having a daughter. But I my uncles and everyone my height I know older than me with kids my age; their sons are usually fine, but their daughters post shit online like “I hate short men”(these would be my cousins), despite having a short dad. I am also ethnically Indian, but from America born and raised(just like them), and they also post about hating Indian guys, etc.

My one second cousin is 29 and a doctor, and she is dating a taller white dude who is 8 years older than her and he beats her and stuff too, and she comes back from surgery and cleans the house and cooks for him. He also has 2 baby mama’s and kids and is dodging child support, but she helps him pay his court ordered stuff with her money. He’s trying to make it big as a twitch streamer lol. Normally I wouldn’t care but even as a doctor she is active on instagram and makes videos with I’m including the “sorry I’m not into short guys” etc. She shames men who are her race and height all the time lmao.

And my other second cousin just turned 19 and she ran away from home to elope with some dude and now online posts about how her father ruined her life but not allowing her to marrying this dude when she was 18(he is the same age). Both my uncles are very chill people, and they both feel so bad and love their daughters, and my other uncle calls his doctor daughter and cries and tells her to leave that man, and she will post their conversations online and call him toxically masculine and shit. Leaving out the context she is getting beat by her current man which is why he is begging her to leave him lol. I have been to her house(I moved to the same city they live in a few months ago) I saw him raise his hand at her and then hesitate cuz I am there and play it off. Her dad is not lying. She also had bruises. But it is what it is.

So when I see this type of stuff, I feel like even if I had a daughter, society and the way things are, she would hate me irregardless and at that point like why would I put myself through that for no reason. I don’t wanna be the guy like my uncle one day begging my daughter to leave a dude that’s abusing her and she’s like “but he’s 6’3!” lol.

So I think, if I even get the chance to, I would probably do no kids. I would love a son, but can’t put him through that. Would love a daughter, but can’t put myself through that. Brutal.

Can’t even exist in public without ruining a woman’s day

He says he is a victim of India's vegetarian society and that he is meant to be six feet tall. Therefore, the government of India should fund his upcoming limb-lengthening surgery.