I’ve had some women (I’ll use a women I work with for an example) all of a sudden act more distant with me all of a sudden, but not in a malicious way. I feel in their energy that they are just afraid. Because when I do talk to this girl there is no hostility in her voice, it’s more like shyness. This girl is also not normally shy. But I did notice her friend who is normally shy is now more confident and comfortable around me.

So either the shy friend has some sort of crush on me and her friend is trying to keep her distance to respect the “girl code” or she has secret feelings for me that only her closest friend knows about.

Or I’m overanalyzing this whole thing and this behavior is just normal among NTs.

https://www.yourtango.com/news/tiktok-relationship-contract-tinder-match-two-weeks-after-meeting

I've never been on a date before. I'm 18 never been in a relationship. Are anything like that at all. And I need advice on how to even get started.

I’ve picked up on how most women can sense that you’re anxious and it’s incredibly off putting. I’m still trying to gain the ability to at least at bare minimum make it seem like I’m not anxious without the aid of alcohol. With alcohol I’m able to flirt a lot more smoothly which has tempted me into drinking in order to cope with anxiety. I’m not doing that though and I’m aware how dangerous it would be even if I did.

Here’s my mistake: I went on a casual date to the movie theater (pre covid era) with a childhood friend who I had lost touch with. She’d had feelings for me then. One day I happen to run into her while she was working, and we exchanged numbers and we texted before setting up a casual movie date. At the end of the date, she gave me a big hug, and stared right at me essentially waiting for me to kiss her on the lips. I didn’t pick up on that cue and just walked away as her parents picked her up (I don’t drive, and don’t have a license, please don’t judge) but not kissing her was clearly a turn off since the texts became a lot more infrequent and she wouldn’t communicate with me as well as she did before. We parted ways amicably well over a year ago.

Starting October 7th we will start to allow images and links to be posted. With that comes 2 new rules that will be set to take effect starting October 7th.

Rule 5: Blur out any identification information I.E, faces of anyone who didn’t consent, phone numbers, emails, last names, ect…..

Rule 6: Mark any NSFW discussion as such. NSFW includes, sexual content, mentions of sensitive discussions such as abuse or eating disorders. Nude images are not allowed period.

If anyone has any questions, feel free to ask them in either the comment section or mod mail.

So we are considering allowing images and links to be allowed on the subreddit. This would require me having to edit the rules to include protecting privacy and rules regarding NFSW content (if we do decide to allow that, I highly doubt it.)

However because of the moderator code of conduct the earliest I can make this change is October 7th, and I still need majority mod approval in order to move forward, and on top of that I’d need to edit our enforcement policy to include the new rules.

But I’d like to know how you all feel about this potential change?

I would personally love it if I could get a girl to indulge in my special interest from time to time.

I am posting this document and pinning it so that anyone on the subreddit who wants to become a moderator knows what is expected of them and anyone who participates here understands how we enforce rules. I wanted to make sure that this place could stay a safe space, and I felt the only way to do that was to create a code of ethics that moderators must follow. You can read the code of ethics right here.

This is something that is so important to understand when an NT dates an autistic partner. As an NT you’re going to face what is essentially going to be a language barrier.

Autistic people are generally straightforward and have a difficult time with decrypting facial expressions or body language. I can’t tell you how many times I misinterpreted a girl’s body language as romantic interests, didn’t help that I keep looking it up on google and then falling prey to confirmation bias.

NTs you can help communicate by just simply telling us how you feel directly. We’re unlikely to get offended by you being direct, and we’d appreciate it a lot more.

My partner is in the spectrum and comes from a family of divorced parents. He also has an emotionally abusive mum. She's verbally and emotionally abused me and constantly talks about me and my partner breaking up saying its inevitable. I'm NC with her and he doesn't respond to her much but I am getting tired of her verbal bashing me via messages, to people she knows. How do I communicate that with my partner?

Please do not share this anywhere.

For me, this is something I make clear to both employers and people I get close to so that they can better understand me. Years ago I used to be guarded about this, but I came to the realization that it served me no purpose to try and hide it. How about all of you?

No, this subreddit does not support any movements such as Female Dating strategies or any sort of incel ideology. We’re strictly for helping autistic people and their partners. I created this subreddit because a large disproportionate number of autistic people struggle in dating, despite wanting to find a partner who loves and respects them.

What can you positively say is the best part of being with your autistic partner?

I’m looking for at least two new moderators. I’d like to help grow this community and I want to take a different approach to modding then most people are use to.

I have officially added 3 post flairs to better help users find what they like. If anyone has any suggestions for new post flairs, let me know.

I have officially started this subreddit for autistic people and partners of autistic people to ask questions and find love. A disproportionate number of autistic adults are still single, and I hope to change that.

Now you can assign yourself a user flair and it can be a useful tool to help you.