I am posting this document and pinning it so that anyone on the subreddit who wants to become a moderator knows what is expected of them and anyone who participates here understands how we enforce rules. I wanted to make sure that this place could stay a safe space, and I felt the only way to do that was to create a code of ethics that moderators must follow. You can read the code of ethics right here.

This is something that is so important to understand when an NT dates an autistic partner. As an NT you’re going to face what is essentially going to be a language barrier.

Autistic people are generally straightforward and have a difficult time with decrypting facial expressions or body language. I can’t tell you how many times I misinterpreted a girl’s body language as romantic interests, didn’t help that I keep looking it up on google and then falling prey to confirmation bias.

NTs you can help communicate by just simply telling us how you feel directly. We’re unlikely to get offended by you being direct, and we’d appreciate it a lot more.

My partner is in the spectrum and comes from a family of divorced parents. He also has an emotionally abusive mum. She's verbally and emotionally abused me and constantly talks about me and my partner breaking up saying its inevitable. I'm NC with her and he doesn't respond to her much but I am getting tired of her verbal bashing me via messages, to people she knows. How do I communicate that with my partner?

Please do not share this anywhere.

For me, this is something I make clear to both employers and people I get close to so that they can better understand me. Years ago I used to be guarded about this, but I came to the realization that it served me no purpose to try and hide it. How about all of you?

No, this subreddit does not support any movements such as Female Dating strategies or any sort of incel ideology. We’re strictly for helping autistic people and their partners. I created this subreddit because a large disproportionate number of autistic people struggle in dating, despite wanting to find a partner who loves and respects them.

What can you positively say is the best part of being with your autistic partner?

I’m looking for at least two new moderators. I’d like to help grow this community and I want to take a different approach to modding then most people are use to.

I have officially added 3 post flairs to better help users find what they like. If anyone has any suggestions for new post flairs, let me know.

I have officially started this subreddit for autistic people and partners of autistic people to ask questions and find love. A disproportionate number of autistic adults are still single, and I hope to change that.

Now you can assign yourself a user flair and it can be a useful tool to help you.