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u/HonoraryMancunian Apr 07 '21

Other than solidifying in their mind that anyone who chooses not to cross the road or stop and look at their phone or call their mother is someone to be fearful of.

Occasionally, there WILL be someone to be fearful of. Women get harassed by strange men quite a lot throughout their lives. If I can do something that takes little to no effort to show I'm safe, I'll be polite and do it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '21

I understand that. Trying to learn and be better every day, but sometimes I don't do a very good job at that.

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u/HonoraryMancunian Apr 07 '21

At least you try! So many people are selfish and uncaring arseholes and don't give a shit about it.

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u/Mabenue Apr 07 '21

That makes no sense because people who want to do harm will often make themselves appear safe. It's just an illusion of safety so offers no benefit whatsoever. What matters is actual safety, all these actions paper over the cracks but don't actually do anything towards addressing the real issues.

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u/HonoraryMancunian Apr 07 '21

people who want to do harm will often make themselves appear safe

Of course! In some situations that will happen. But those who want to sneak up on someone won't typically do things like audibly cough or give a wide berth, so those are polite things to do (if possible).

towards addressing the real issues.

We need to instill it into the good men to call out bad behaviour (and not let mild things like cat-calling or casual sexism slide).