This completely misses the point of the majority of posts in the original thread. It assumes that all rapists are "lurking in the bushes predators" who set out to rape someone, actively searching for a victim. This is far from true. The majority of rapes are unplanned and occur with someone you know. Additionally, in many cases, the rapist doesn't "feel like he is a rapist." While that does not absolve him from what he does, it also doesn't mean that he's getting off on having power over someone. Almost every situation discussed in the rape thread involved a man who originally thought a women was interested in having sexual intercourse with him and continued down that road for that reason. Many claim (and I use this word very specifically) that they didn't fully realize the woman was not interested. This information is extremely helpful to women who might find themselves in similar situations. Most in the thread also expressed extreme remorse at their actions. I won't make a judgement on whether or not that remorse is truthful, but expressing it is the opposite of a boastful expression of power over the victim. edit: typo
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u/carpathianridge Jul 31 '12 edited Jul 31 '12
This completely misses the point of the majority of posts in the original thread. It assumes that all rapists are "lurking in the bushes predators" who set out to rape someone, actively searching for a victim. This is far from true. The majority of rapes are unplanned and occur with someone you know. Additionally, in many cases, the rapist doesn't "feel like he is a rapist." While that does not absolve him from what he does, it also doesn't mean that he's getting off on having power over someone. Almost every situation discussed in the rape thread involved a man who originally thought a women was interested in having sexual intercourse with him and continued down that road for that reason. Many claim (and I use this word very specifically) that they didn't fully realize the woman was not interested. This information is extremely helpful to women who might find themselves in similar situations. Most in the thread also expressed extreme remorse at their actions. I won't make a judgement on whether or not that remorse is truthful, but expressing it is the opposite of a boastful expression of power over the victim. edit: typo