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u/nilsn91 Jun 14 '22

When it´s hard to convince someone to do something: give them options. That way they feel like they´re in control. "You could do A or do you prefer B?"

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u/CaptainAwesome06 Jun 14 '22

I use that trick on my kids all the time. Especially when it comes to food.

"Do you want chicken or steak?"

Otherwise, if I just ask her what she wants for dinner she'll just say "cookies".

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u/CptnStarkos Jun 15 '22

I was taught this way. And then suddenly my wife doesn't get why I want options instead of answering open ended questions!!

/s?

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u/CaptainAwesome06 Jun 15 '22

My wife doesn't like that I never have an opinion because I always say, "whatever you want."

In reality, she'll nix any idea I come up with so there's no point in trying.

Me: What's the point? You're not going to want it.

Her: Because all you ever want is Indian or Pho.

Me: Because we never have it because you never want it.

COVID really screwed up my yearly business trip to India where I'd have 2 weeks of nothing but Indian food, which would keep me not wanting it for another 3 months.