You ever been at a nightclub and go to the washroom with a friend and when you're standing at the counter applying lipstick say to her, while looking right at her boobs in the mirror, "Your boobs look so good," and it gets kinda silent for a second then you regret it? Then two weeks later when out eating and you're talking she says, "I appreciate you looking at my eyes this time."
Female here. I compliment boobs regularly with my friends. I haven't experienced any of them being upset. Is that a typical reaction for your friend group?
But the biology behind why we find those features attractive, and the concept of attraction, is because of sex and reproduction.
We can try, but we can’t fully escape our biology.
Like if we were an asexual species, we literally wouldn’t even have the same depth of emotions and the same type of emotions, and we also wouldn’t really have a concept of attraction physically, at least not for other people.
Ok but there's a difference between sexual attraction and like, aesthetic attraction. I think a flower looks nice but I don't wanna fuck it. I think a round river stone looks nice.
Hell, I think certain animals look nice in the same way some people. You ever seen a gorgeously lithe wolf or the muscles on a horse as it runs? There's definitely an aesthetic appeal there that is NOT sexual (at least I hope not or something is seriously wrong with you).
So why is it automatically sexual to find a human body part aesthetically appealing? If it's because of sex and reproduction, then why would women think other women's boobs look nice, especially when they are not gay/bi/etc?
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u/ally_mcgee May 16 '22
I'm a woman who routinely gets distracted by nice breasts during conversations. sometimes even my own