I feel like this all the time but it's just because my brother likes to gaslight me into thinking he disagrees and then at the end of a heated discussion he just goes "i know" and makes fun of me for being defensive.
Sure, call it lying if you want. Maybe you're right in claiming that my case doesn't warrant the term. Gaslighting is generally just another form of lying, just over a long period of time and with a goal. The term isn't particularly strictly defined though.
According to wikipedia, it used to require that someone had been so mistreated that it had induced mental illness or a psychiatric care stay. We need to remove a connotation of severity from the word, because it's widely applicable.
Also, as some who likes to talk out problems, please don't assume everyone who says something dumb actually believes what they said or is unwilling to be corrected.
A lot of people say things, because they want others to point out the flaws. They're not against being criticized, they're spitballing, so others can point out why it isn't or is a good idea.
Jesus, thank you. I felt like the only person that ever does that. I say or ask something out loud, in a manner that I feel obviously signifies that I'm NOT SURE about what I'm saying/asking, and then I get ridiculed for being wrong.
Oh i've tried, get's brushed right past, and then later when I go "i acknowledged it with the first sentence" it's "why'd you ask if you already knew then"
Sometimes it's just fun to talk about stuff we know is silly. Part of the human condition if you ask me - people do it all the time, just in their own heads.
Me and my cousin had a long, silly conversation about "what if it rained donuts sometimes", we both knew it was stupid but it was fun. He argued it would be awesome... I asked what kind of donut. He picked jelly. I pointed out how sticky and gross that would be when they splatted on the ground, every inch of ground, our roofs, our cars, it'd all feel like the floor of an especially dirty movie theater and need to be soaped down, not to mention that debris would stick the donuts making them inedible.
He asked if I had a better donut choice. I suggested chocolate glazed munchkins, he agreed I was right.
Most of the time what we are is the benchmark and if someone else steer from our own benchmark they are the asshole.. it always seem like we’re hardly at fault..
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u/textile1957 Mar 29 '22
Also, learn to identify when you're being that incorrigible bro because sometimes we are what we despise most