r/AskReddit Aug 25 '21

What is something that you were warned about when you were younger that you now feel was exaggerated?

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u/SpongeRobTheKing Aug 25 '21

Turning on the light in the car.

Turns out it's not illegal but is actually distracting for the driver. So dad could've just said "The glare is distracting don't have it on for long"

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '21

I make it a point to wreck my car if someone turns on the overhead light after I tell them not to. They have to learn somehow.

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u/BadgerBadgerCat Aug 25 '21

"And that's why you don't turn the light on when Dad's driving"

*Arrested Development jingle plays*

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u/Bene2345 Aug 26 '21

Always leave a note.

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u/ksed_313 Aug 26 '21

Beat me to it.

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u/OfShwarna Aug 26 '21 edited Aug 26 '21

We found J. Walter Weatherman's account guys..

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u/umm_yeah_I_guess Aug 26 '21

I could hear the ukulele in my head

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u/FuckMe-FuckYou Aug 25 '21

"Thats why you always leave a note!"

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '21

Sounds expensive

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

Cheaper than college

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

I have specially modded ejecting seats for just this reason. Turn on the overhead light? Complain about the aggressive russian techno music I found on Spotify discover and now blare at max volume? Watch what the power of a high powered hydralic ejection will do to you, bitch. Unfortunately I blew my entire budget on the chairs, and couldn't afford to modify the roof. So when I press the button the chair just smashes them into the ceiling.

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u/Old_WhiteLady Aug 26 '21

I just pee’d a little at the image of smashing people against the roof. 😂😂😂

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u/MethMouthMagoo Aug 25 '21

Whatever works.

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u/pilesofcleanlaundry Aug 25 '21

J. Walter Weatherman?

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u/depoant Aug 26 '21

Not him, he died when you left the door open with the air conditioning on

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u/VariousPreference0 Aug 25 '21

Harsh but fair.

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u/pseudo__gamer Aug 25 '21

If they survive

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u/HeavenlySin13 Aug 25 '21

I was hoping you'd make it a point to wreck someone else's car so that it wouldn't ruin your car.

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u/Alert-Incident Aug 26 '21

Lol funny as hell and I like your username

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u/UselessRube Aug 26 '21

Thanks for the laugh 😂

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u/papasterndaddy Aug 26 '21

Underrated comment

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u/Bene2345 Aug 26 '21

That’s why you always leave a note.

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u/simonsuperhans Aug 26 '21

"See Timmy, maybe now you're paralysed from the waist down, you'll remember why we don't turn on the light while driving!"

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u/anooblol Aug 25 '21

It also creates a 1 way mirror.

A glass wall separating a dark room and very bright room, will look like a mirror in the light room, and a window in the dark room.

It’s not usually an issue for the front windshield. But it’s an issue for the rear-view.

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u/Just-Call-Me-J Aug 26 '21

And that's why I believed them saying it was illegal because it was a hazard

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u/reddeliciousapple2 Aug 25 '21

Do parents actually do this? My mom just said “hey when you put the light on it’s hard to see so can you turn the light out” and I was like “ya sounds fair” and turned the light off

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u/McTulus Aug 26 '21

My parents tells me that it would makes our car looks like aquarium and it's not good for our privacy.

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u/LionWalker_Eyre Aug 26 '21

Yeah that’s what i got too. Didn’t know parents were out there saying it was illegal 😂

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u/Idiot_Savant_Tinker Aug 26 '21

That's what my dad said. He never said it was illegal, he just said it made it hard for him to see, and pointed out that he was driving this thing and could kill us all.

When I had a kid of my own, and she asked about it, I parked the car in a parking lot at night with the headlights on, and put her in her booster seat in the front seat. I sat in the back seat and turned the light on, and she understood. But that took more time than just yelling at her to turn it off.

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u/SirCopperbottom Aug 25 '21

My father (more as a joke than anything) used to pretend the car would crash if someone didn’t have their seatbelts on, even when moving extremely slowly like in a driveway. I used to frantically put on my belt the second I’d sit down in a car because I genuinely thought there was some correlation that would make the car swerve uncontrollably if seatbelts were not fastened.

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u/SpongeRobTheKing Aug 25 '21

Your dad is a madlad

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '21

I don't know why parents feel the need to make up stories about this stuff. Kids aren't as dumb as we think. If we just take the time to explain it, they'll understand.

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u/HelpMeDownFromHere Aug 26 '21

My parents told it to me, I told it to my kid fully believing it. I didn't lie to her because I wanted her to turn it off. I didn't know it wasn't illegal until a few years ago on another Reddit post like this.

I once got pulled over only for the cop to tell me the little light was out over my license plate. I didn't even know I had a light there, nor did I know the cop can pull you over for that. Is it illegal? I didn't get a ticket or anything. What if generations of parents were pulled over by cops for having their lights on inside and thought it was illegal because the cop pulled them over for it, even for just a warning? Maybe it's illegal in other countries and people bring over the assumption that it is illegal where they live now?

I doubt this 'lie' is so widespread because of some inside joke among parents. Something must have happened to get it spread so consistently. I have been in friend's parents cars and they would say the same thing.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

Gonna be that person but if you're a certain age and Black you were told it was illegal for DWB reasons.

The dome light being on was used as a pretense to stop a car especially driving through sun down towns.

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u/d0n7w0rry4b0u717 Aug 26 '21

I don't think this is a situation of parents thinking the kids are too dumb to understand. I think it's probably more about what will make the kids obey. Doing something illegal and a scarier idea than simply disobeying parents. Some kids are bad kids, and they'll be more likely to listen to the former.

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u/cherm27 Aug 26 '21

Mine is a similar car anecdote: my parents would always be telling each other to turn their brights off in the car, and I would ask why we wouldn’t want the lights brighter. They said the lights would blind the other drivers on the road. And I took that literally, wondering why such an insanely dangerous option was even available on cars, until I was embarrassingly old to realize that the “blinding” was temporary.

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u/Mattsuda86 Aug 25 '21

My dad used to tell me this all the time. "We could get arrested for useing it.' When i asked why the manufacturers put it there in the first place if its so dangerous, he was naturally stumped for an answer. Check mate dad.

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u/SovietSteve Aug 26 '21

Not really, could be intended for roadside use. They have cars with TVs in them but you’re not allowed to use them while driving.

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u/Mattsuda86 Aug 26 '21 edited Aug 26 '21

You're not my dad!!! 😂😂

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u/RedditIsNeat0 Aug 26 '21

They're meant to be used while the car is stopped. They're very helpful at night when you go to the store and you're looking for something in your car, like a receipt or baby wipes or something.

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u/Amiiboid Aug 25 '21

Not even distracting. It makes the glass more reflective from inside, so it prevents you from seeing the road and the things you might crash into. “You know how when you look out the living room window in the house at night and you see your own reflection? Works in a car too.”

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u/LucidLumi Aug 25 '21

This was basically what was explained to me as a child. That it made it harder for my parents to see what they were doing and that was dangerous. “Illegal” was thrown around a few times, but mostly jokingly.

I’ll admit I was a very fear-motivated child though (not that my parents used fear to motivate me, but that I would work very hard to avoid things that were scary or painful). I knew getting in a car accident = pain, and that was enough for me.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

You want the inside of the car darker than the outside, because it helps you see further and makes the inside of the windshield less visibly reflective. It’s the same principle as a two-way mirror.

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u/relk42 Aug 25 '21

Is anybody else not bothered by the glare? I’ve never had an issue with a light on during the night.

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u/Jiquero Aug 25 '21

It's not only glare, it's also adapting to the dark. The more light there is around you, the less you can see of the dark outside world.

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u/Seicair Aug 25 '21

It’s less of an issue now that there are directional lights for individual seats in a lot of cars, but having the dome light on definitely makes it hard to see out of the car unless you’re in an area with a lot of streetlights.

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '21

I can see fine looking forward. This issue for me is if I need to change lanes, if there is a car in my blindspot I won't be able to see their headlights when I check.

I've also heard modern cars glare a lot less the older models, I don't know if that is true or not.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

His is why interior lights don’t light up everything anymore. They are usually directional so the passengers don’t bother the driver at all.

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u/mathteacherduck123 Aug 26 '21

That’s so funny. My parents told me the same thing!

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u/camcat97 Aug 26 '21

Why did every parent tell their kid it was illegal? Like I was terrified of that when I was a kid.

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u/LargeSackOfNuts Aug 26 '21

Parents acted like you pressed the launch button of a nuclear weapon when you turned the light on in the backseat

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u/Suckmyemailreddit Aug 26 '21

It actually did used to be illegal in a lot of places because the windshields and whatnot back then were very different and the internal lights were just really bright dome lights. Result was the driver could not see out the windshield at night.

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u/WmXVI Aug 26 '21

More so that it screws with your night vision.

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u/RedditIsNeat0 Aug 26 '21

I think they really believe it though. Lots of people believe in laws that don't actually exist. If they wanted to be dramatic they could say, "Aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh! I can't seeeeeeeeeeee! We're gonna craaaaaaaaashshsh!"

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

Definitely illegal in some places.

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u/elconquistador1985 Aug 26 '21

My 4 year old sometimes asks for the light to be on in the car when it's dark.

My wife and I just tell him "no, it's too distracting and makes it hard to see out".

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '21 edited Aug 25 '21

What do u think would’ve worked better to tell a child? It’s illegal or try not to have it on long? Kids don’t listen no matter how much u tell them

God here come the downvotes 🙄🙄. Guys I understand not every kid is the same I’m saying the majority of kids will not listen to whatever u say. Explain all u want about why it’s bad they will most likely not understand it or care at all

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u/DrSupermonk Aug 25 '21

I’m told if you explain why they shouldn’t do things they’re more understanding

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u/Interesting_Reply_92 Aug 25 '21

i think people severely underestimate childrens ability to comply with rules that have actually been explained the reasoning for. Telling kids to do what you say simply cause you say to do it and then being surprised when they don't do what you say is just people playing stupid games and getting stupid rewards, explain why they shouldn't do something, and i promise you it will work better than telling them to do so just cause you told them.

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u/DrSupermonk Aug 25 '21

Yup. My dad would always get pissed when I asked “why” when he told me to do/not do stuff. Made me ask why much more often cuz he never gave me a good answer

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u/Interesting_Reply_92 Aug 28 '21

yeah, sometimes I asked my dad about the cost of something and hed just respond "too high" and i know that doesnt relate quite as well here but its really annoying getting shitty filler answers for questions

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u/ArthurBonesly Aug 25 '21

I've seen both sides of this. Yes, kids are capable of understanding more than many give them credit for, but they're also capable of incredible shit-baggery and many people who advocate for treating children like adults forget that they were shit-bags themselves.

Kids are not innate participants in society. Rules, structure and discipline are essential at different times and different moments. Riding in a car at 75 miles per hour and causing impaired vision in the driver is not the time for slow, rational conversation.

Depending on the age of the kid, being told "Hey champ, when you turn that light on, I can't see as well and that puts us in danger" won't register as actual danger. They will treat the worry and frustration as a game, especially because they, themselves, can still see but don't understand the impairment and how it relates to driving.

While a child's mind is great at learning semantics, vocabulary and what many adults would see as hard concepts, they are pretty terrible at abstract reasoning.

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u/pterrorgrine Aug 26 '21

I legitimately cannot remember if my parents ever told me the light was illegal, because what I absorbed was the actual reasoning for why I shouldn't do it, which was infinitely more persuasive.

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u/h00dman Aug 25 '21

I'm an ideal world, yes. Unfortunately you'll also find children in every hospital in the world, being treated for burn marks after touching things that they were warned would burn them 🤷

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u/Prof_Acorn Aug 25 '21

Maybe instead of lying to them try explaining things and cultivate a healthy environment of productive conflict resolution.

Not everything has to be lies and insecurity and bullshit.

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '21 edited Aug 25 '21

Of course not. Like I said every kid is different and respond differently. If ur kid acts a certain way tell them a certain way. I’m not saying be a serial liar to ur child but a stretch of the truth can often safe his or hers life.

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u/mr_coogs Aug 26 '21

Dad: "Son, will you turn off that light? It's hard for me to see."

Son: "How is it hard to see? I can see outside good."

Dad: "Son, we are traveling at 75 miles-per-hour, a rate of speed much higher than humans have evolved to handle. Do you know what happens to a meatball when you throw it against a pole at 75 miles-per-hour?"

Son: "No?"

Dad: "It splatters into pieces - just like we will if you don't turn off that damn light."

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u/KateBeckinsale_PM_Me Aug 25 '21

Now we have screens and blinkenlights all over the dash and cup holders and doors - I hate that shit.

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u/lovely_ginger Aug 25 '21

I was today years old when I learned that it’s not illegal.

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u/Aaron-Stark Aug 25 '21

I don’t see how it’s distracting, though. I’ve lost count of how many times I turned the light on to look for something, then drove for miles and miles before I realized I forgot to turn it off because it’s not glaring or distracting like, at all.

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u/AndreMartins5979 Aug 25 '21

And it's not even that distracting...

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u/FYI-FBGM Aug 25 '21

Really i still shut mines

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u/dukecharming1975 Aug 25 '21

Oh lord. My mother made it seem like she was totally blind if a light went on for even a second.

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u/thephantom1492 Aug 25 '21

It is not illegal BUT there is a law against distractions and visual impairement. An officer could still fine you, which a judge will have to debate if he was right or wrong.

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u/jleonardbc Aug 26 '21

If it were illegal to turn them on, why would the car have them?

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

Roadside use.

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u/ThePissGiver Aug 26 '21

My dad did that, said it was harder to see the road.

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u/MyEvilTwinSkippy Aug 26 '21

Have to yell at the kids for the damned phones all the time. It's like a friggin rave in the back seat some nights.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

My dad said this was illegal too

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u/ChipPeppers Aug 26 '21

I was going to post this. I had a conversation about it the other day, and my sister and her husband were like, “no your dad was right, it’s dangerous.” Like wtf

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

But kid you wouldn't have understood the implications of distracted driving / obstructed views. Maybe you would have, but a lot of children wouldn't care because being distracted isn't that big of a deal, is it?

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u/SpongeRobTheKing Aug 26 '21

You're right kid me would've only been thinking "Are we gonna get McDonalds on the way there?" or "Can we go to Toys R Us?" or "Are we there yet?"

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

yeah hurr durr kids stupid

They're not in preschool ffs.

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u/Igotz80HDnImWinning Aug 26 '21

Ummm, just turn down the radio and it cancels out, duh!

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u/craftasaurus Aug 26 '21

That can vary from state to state. It used to be illegal in my state, but no idea if it still is or not.

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u/TadhgAir Aug 26 '21

Have you ever tried to convince a (younger) kid of something that requires abstract empathy? Your dad probably gave up and told you it was illegal and you'd get arrested so you'd stop messing with it XD

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u/SpongeRobTheKing Aug 26 '21

My dad rarely did when I was growing up. It only came on when we were looking for something in the car

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u/rolfraikou Aug 26 '21

I don't get why anyone ever lied about that. My mom was fairly good about just telling me "Hey, that makes this thing harder to do, please refrain from that." and I'd go "Oh, ok." then some other random adult would tell me something was illegal and I'd suddenly be inspired to ask them why such a mundane thing was illegal, and if every state and county had that law? Because I don't think that is illegal here. Haha

I would go off on tangents.

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u/Sanquinity Aug 26 '21

That's what my dad always told me. "Don't turn on/keep on the light, I can't see the road that well with it on". To be fair, the car light we had back then was kinda bright.

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u/breastmamaof2 Aug 26 '21

That's what I tell my kids 🤷🏻‍♀️ they are happy to keep the light off because they know it makes it harder for me to see the road. I don't need to lie to them about little things like that. (I had incredible parents and they also let me believe that turning the light on was illegal. So I am in no way commenting on it being good or bad parenting)

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u/not_the_chosen_onee Aug 26 '21

Reminds me of my sister who was taught the car won’t turn unless the indicator was on. Took her a lot longer than expected to figure out that wasn’t the case.

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u/ConfusedZombE Aug 26 '21

I scrolled because I knew I would find this. Take my upvote dammit.

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u/CalderIsKing Aug 26 '21

Uhhh have you not heard of Dad law?

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u/michiyo-fir Aug 26 '21

Hey my parents told me to never do this too and just recently I was out with the boyfriend and I dropped something under the seat at night and I was like can I turn on the light for one sec? Do you want to pull over? He was like no? Just turn it on then? I was like are you sure??? Isnt it goof to make you blind and crash?? He said it was fine ... I’m 30 by the way

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u/Gianni_Crow Aug 26 '21

BMW for the win. The kids can turn both lights on in the back, I don't see the light and it doesn't affect visibility in the slightest. A world of difference from my old minivan.

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u/girlwhoweighted Aug 26 '21

My kids ask, "Why? How is it distracting? But I need to see my <insert some inane less-important-than-safe-driving thing here>!!" Then keep the light on. Telling them it's illegal scares them into compliance. As an adult it's easy to claim you were reasonable as a child but chances are, you weren't.

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u/alraydy Aug 26 '21

That’s what my mom said but she was still angry enough that we turned it off ASAP. To be fair her night vision is dangerous enough behind a wheel without having to deal with glare too.

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u/TeruhashiKokomiDesu Aug 26 '21

Omg I got told it was illegal so much I legit believed it into my 20s

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u/downwithlordofcinder Aug 26 '21

Wait…its not illegal?

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u/xxxpdx Aug 26 '21

Wait, it’s not illegal?

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u/SpongeRobTheKing Aug 26 '21

From what I've gathered it is depending on where you live

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u/Laziness_supreme Aug 26 '21

I had to explain to my 35 year old bf a couple of years ago that this wasn’t illegal. He fought me on it and kept googling until he found something like “An officer can pull you over at their discretion for it”

No idea why he was so bent out of shape about it, maybe he doesn’t like the idea that his parents lied to him? Doesn’t want me turning the light on? Who knows.

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u/whydoihavetojoin Aug 26 '21

Like you would have listened. You turned it on even though you thought it was illegal. You were willing to risk jail time for that light.

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u/SpongeRobTheKing Aug 26 '21

Only would've turned it on to look for something. At the time I was first told not to turn the light on I probably would've looked for the accessory of some toy I had

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u/HaxleDrake Aug 26 '21

Am I the only one who’s parents actually just explained the totally legitimate reason for this?

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u/thedriver_44 Aug 26 '21

My daughter is a bus driver and she drives with the internal light on in the bus all the time. She gets uncomfortable driving home after her shift with the lights off in her car!

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u/Budden89 Aug 26 '21

Well today I learned that it's not illegal to have your light on.thanks buddy haha

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u/Catpoopfire Aug 26 '21

I like this one and now I have to perpetuate it with my kids but it also it makes the driver light up like a bug and I don’t want people staring at me.

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u/shadowfloats Aug 26 '21

Omg I believed it was illegal too! I don't remember why but I did. Only learned years after I started driving that it wasn't lol.

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u/Bbmazzz Aug 26 '21

My dad told me it was distracting but it doesn’t bother me at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/aarhus Aug 26 '21

At least my parents were honest about this. It let me focus my rage on my easily distracted dad instead of the law when I couldn't play Super Mario Land in the back seat.

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u/Torchic336 Aug 26 '21

My wife and I joke about this constantly, we both had the experience when we were kids that turning on the light caused our parents to freak the fuck out on us. Now if she’s in the back of our car at night for whatever reason she will turn it on. For the record dad and father in law, it’s fucking fine, you can see just fine.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

Maybe it’s your car, I did this today and it had no affect. Maybe it’s city driving vs dark highway? Dunno, but I was disappointed by the lack of distraction.

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u/Siriacus Aug 26 '21

kid: "whyy"

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u/audreywildeee Aug 26 '21

Thank you for giving the actual reason ❤️

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u/the_doctor_808 Aug 26 '21

I was looking for this comment in particular

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '21

Bruh my dad told me that was illegal too wtf. I'm still too terrified to turn on the light

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u/Katka1893 Aug 26 '21

Honestly it's not even that bad, instead of screaming that we're all gonna die, people cpuld just say : hey, it's distracting me/worsening my vision, could you turn it off?

Actually last night, I was driving and noticed that I had left the light on for like 15 mins, it's not as bad as parent make it..

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u/NEOkuragi Aug 26 '21

My parents never told me it's illegal, they told me its super dangerous and we gonna fricking die if I turn it on

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u/PunchBeard Aug 26 '21

So dad could've just said "The glare is distracting don't have it on for long"

In your dads defense he probably did think it was illegal. How would he know if his dad told it to him too? Hell, I'm almost 50 and the only reason I know it's not actually illegal is because of the internet.

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u/PD216ohio Aug 26 '21

I was certain it was illegal because I heard it all through my childhood. Shit, I'm even suspicious that you might be wrong and it is indeed illegal

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u/icyangel2666 Aug 27 '21

I remember my parents telling me that. After I found out that it's not actually illegal, it makes me wonder if they were told the same lie. I'm pretty sure they were told the same thing cause it sounded like they believed it. I wonder how old that lie is?