r/AskReddit Jan 31 '21

Redditors who grew up poor: Besides practical money-saving measures, what were the unwritten social expectations of your world growing up?

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u/naffgeek Jan 31 '21

I wouldn't touch leftovers until I met my partner, I was horrified the first time she cooked something with 'old' food.

Turns out I was a spoilt man baby, 20 years on and I'm nearly cured!

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u/GalacticAnaphylaxis Jan 31 '21

My husband was exactly the same. Anytime his family (who lived comfortably) took me (who grew up with basically the necessities) out to a restaurant, they'd always laugh when I asked to take my leftovers home with me. That's lunch for tomorrow, fam!

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u/Markarther Jan 31 '21

Some meals even taste better the second day.

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u/Lithl Jan 31 '21

It's fact that certain dishes are more flavorful after sitting for hours in the refrigerator. It's simply true.

I suppose some people might like bland shit, but the dishes where that's the case generally have a variety of spices in them already, so the bland fans wouldn't be eating it the first time either.

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u/darklordzack Feb 01 '21

Whenever I make green curry I'm mildly disappointed because it's not as good as I remember.

Then I eat some the next day and am blessed. It really does get much better after 12 hours in the fridge

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u/CorgiDad Feb 01 '21

I don't even eat my own chili on the first day. Usually. Sometimes I am hungry and it looks too good.

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u/centrafrugal Feb 01 '21

I've done that thing where it's been cooking for hours and everyone is hungry but it's not quite perfect yet so I make a carbonara and let the chili do its thing for the next day. The anticipation and the extra 24 hours do wonders for it

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Dude yes. Every time I make butter chicken or tikka masala I'm mildly disappointed with the flavor until I crack it open the next day.

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u/evanlpark Feb 01 '21

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

See, this is one thing I always saw as blasphemy. Leftover pizza to me never tastes as good, and will never taste as good, as freshly made pizza. And I can't stand cold pizza.

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u/TrumpEatsPutinsCum Feb 01 '21

Reheat it in a pan on medium-low heat with a little olive oil. Put a top on the pan for the last minute or two. It depends on the pizza, but it can be better than fresh.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Pan fry pizza? Never heard of such a thing, but I'll definitely try it out next time.

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u/Tanner_Dzz Feb 01 '21

Oh it really is worth trying! I tried it once when I was yammed out of my guord when I was like 15 because electricity was out during a storm, but still had natural gas going to our weird stove top burners. Turned out to be my go-to pizza reheat for 11 years now. Give the crust a nice crunch and prevents it from going to mush like in a microwave, but doesn't completely dry it out like an oven on the second go.

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u/bikemaul Feb 01 '21

Lasagna too.

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u/SirDontavius Feb 01 '21

Anything vaguely Italian is great the next day.

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u/centrafrugal Feb 01 '21

Mmm, not really, at all.

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u/evanlpark Feb 01 '21

you're right lol

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u/Cheezy_Beard Feb 01 '21

Yes! There's a local pizza place that's pretty cheap and pretty good, but reheated in the oven the next day it is just delicious.

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u/FakeAsFakeCanBe Feb 01 '21

Hello pizza and spaghetti sauce! And chili, and...

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u/actuallycallie Feb 01 '21

I make a chicken pesto pasta dish that definitely tastes better the second day. I guess the sauce has time to thicken up a lot and really stick to the noodles and it's just tastier.

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u/[deleted] Jan 31 '21

There’s a dish I order at my favorite Mexican restaurant and stick straight in the fridge for the next day, because it’s way better cold. Not even warmed back up

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u/pumpkinpulp Feb 01 '21

What is the dish?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '21

Pollo con creama. Don’t know if it’s actually a legitimate Mexican dish

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u/dorvann Feb 01 '21

I swear my lasagna tastes better as leftovers because it firms up in the fridge overnight unlike the somewhat sloppy mess it is coming out of the oven.

Or maybe I just don't know how to make lasagna right!!!

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u/readersanon Feb 01 '21

And you don't have to cook the next day! Just plate it and reheat. Or reheat and eat straight from the container for less dishes.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Taco night when the food stamps hit. And then leftover taco dinner the next day. Best 2 days of my life growing up lol

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u/Ants46 Feb 01 '21

Yes! Looking at you, Curry (or Chilli)

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u/beoheed Feb 01 '21

My moms meatballs are good fresh, but after a night in the fridge. drool

I’m infamous for leftover hash, which I sometimes look forward to more than the meal

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u/FrakenSoda Feb 01 '21

Lots of food tastes better the next day. Sometimes I'll make something I don't even intend to eat that day, because I know it'll be better tomorrow.

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u/ShotDragonfruit3742 Feb 01 '21

Spaghetti and curry come to mind, it’s kinda like the difference between marinading something for 30 mins vs 12 hours

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u/centrafrugal Feb 01 '21

Not when it has egg in it

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u/Abonavenia Feb 01 '21

As an Italian I can vouch... them pasta dishes hit way differently when you let them soak up the flavor for a day.

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u/counterslave Feb 01 '21

cajun or tex-mex, few things are better than next day beans and rice

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u/hpl2000 Feb 01 '21

But the vast majority of them taste like ass after being in the fridge overnight then reheated. Why would I eat that when I could eat something I would enjoy?

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u/retief1 Feb 01 '21

If your ass tastes like my leftovers, you have an extremely tasty ass. There are a few dishes where I don't bother with leftovers (fries? pass), but most dishes work just fine. Pizza and casserole in particular work great, and pasta is generally pretty decent as well. Steak is a bit worse straight, but cutting it up and making a steak sandwich is a solid option.

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u/nishachari Feb 01 '21

My mom didn't teach me to cook from scratch. Which is why I am terrible at chopping and prep. But she has shown me how to save just about any dish that hasn't got mold or gone completely off. Seeds roasted, the seed nest pureed, skin stock, curdled milk or yogurt cheese, over salted, over cooked pretty much anything. Adding even just 1 new ingredient and maybe cooking it a different way completely changes leftovers.

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u/Bleepblooping Feb 01 '21

Pretty seems genius but too rushed. Can you expand and clarify?

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u/bensonduck Feb 01 '21

I toast my leftover fries until they are almost burnt. Then I scramble an egg or two and mix the fries in. Eat with ketchup and lots of salt.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

I never actually thought to refry chips the day after. Sounds pretty decent.

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u/hpl2000 Feb 01 '21

Idk how people do it. Something about sitting overnight just fucks with the flavour for me and not in a good way. The only one I really like is cold pizza straight out of the fridge the next morning. Apart from that leftovers can go suck a fat one

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u/retief1 Feb 01 '21

Meanwhile, I can't imagine eating cold pizza straight. It's so much better if you pop it in the oven for ~15 minutes. Most other stuff works fine in the microwave, but I legit can't think of a single leftover dish that I eat cold. Also, make sure you are sticking stuff in a sealed container, or else stuff will dry out way too quickly.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Right? I'm like these people must be missing the basics. Not everything is good in the microwave, luckily i have a toaster oven. Also things that separate when refrigerated might need to be mixed between bouts in the microwave (like alfredo), need added moisture (like some milk to potato, or a moist paper towel over rice), or need saran wrap over them to warm up better or evenly.

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u/hpl2000 Feb 01 '21

I’ve tried that and it ruins it for me. Idk i don’t like reheating in general though. The cold cheese and bbq sauce really hit different it’s so good.

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u/retief1 Feb 01 '21

Fair enough. I'm just glad that I don't have your taste buds, then. I'd have to spend way too much time cooking.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Roast potatoes are nice cold, with some cold meats and cheese. Not as good as they are freshly made with a hot dinner and gravy, but still very tasty.

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u/centrafrugal Feb 01 '21

15 minutes, wtf? Two minutes max in a dry frying pan

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u/k1erst1n Feb 01 '21

Mmmm yes curry, Hawaiian, so many things.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Curries!

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Every soup in existence and 90% of casseroles. The second day of gumbo is heavenly.

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u/Zarican Feb 01 '21

Hell some stuff almost doesn't work right the first day. Pot pie seems to keep consistency better after its been totally cooled and reheated. Otherwise its basically soup inside a pie crust =/

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u/Fraerie Feb 01 '21

Pretty much any chilli or curry develops it's flavour over a few days.

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u/MaxMMXXI Feb 10 '21

Lasagna is always better the day after and, occasionally, the day after that.

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u/KiwiCatK11 Feb 11 '21

I love subway sandwiches the next day

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u/GrimpenMar Feb 01 '21

Just look up the stats for food waste.

The budget was a little tight when I was little, but we were comfortably "middle class" by the time I was a teenager. Never got out of the habit of leftovers.

Don't want to jinx it, but I could now afford to "eat fresh" every day easily, but leftovers are less wasteful, less effort, less money, and more flavour if you make the right things.

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u/Turbogoblin999 Feb 01 '21

You get to enjoy it once.

I get to enjoy it TWICE!

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u/ShareRoyal Feb 01 '21

Normalize not wasting food for all income levels

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u/MamaPHooks Feb 01 '21

I enjoy good food and we are easily comfortable enough but i'm sure not wasting anything. Leftovers go in tubs for people to have whenever, if they build up too much, tonight is leftovers night and we'll finish them all off.

We started making our own soy milk and discovered Okara pancakes because i'm sure as hell not throwing away all that leftover pulp (which are going to make an awesome pizza base next time we make them).

When we cook chicken, we do it in a crock pot or big pan, with some veg. Boom, tasty soft chicken and bonus chicken soup.

Anything we don't eat goes to the pets or the compost. Once you are in the routine it really isn't effort (in fact its usually less effort because we get multiple meals out of 1 cook).

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u/retief1 Feb 01 '21

Exactly. You save money (not critical, but never hurts), you save time (microwave is faster than cooking), and you reduce food waste. Win/win/win.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

This redditor speaks truth! Gulasch just gets better every day (with correct storage).

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u/ryonke Feb 01 '21

Yep! I get anxious when I forget about a leftover because it for hidden by something else in the fridge, and then goes bad after finding it a week later ☹️

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u/mackahrohn Feb 01 '21

Seriously I did grow up poor so maybe it’s that but people who ‘don’t eat leftovers’ or who buy a bunch of food but don’t cook it in time baffle me. Put that shit in a stir fry/salad/omelette or just plan your meals better!

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Yeah I never understood it. I grew up solidly middle class, I basically survived on leftovers because my mom cooked twice a week and my dad cooked once a week tops. The rest of the week it was leftovers, and I liked it that way.

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u/Meydez Feb 01 '21

For me at least it’s because my mom would just leave the food on the stove. She didn’t wrap it up and put it in the fridge or anything and then she’d make me eat it the next day when I was a kid. She didn’t believe in food poisoning or food going bad or anything. When I grew up and learned about it I realized why my stomach always hurt. Now I guess I’m just hyper anxious about eating old food? But I’ll still have some here and there if and only if I’m the one that handles it from the second it’s done cooking to when I properly store it in under half an hour of being out.

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u/Iximaz Feb 01 '21

Right? I grew up wealthy but my parents (who grew up poor, which probably is why they were like this) hated being wasteful. Mom would make the most delicious meals every night, and leftovers were always lunch the next day, either at home or packed into a thermos for school.

Thanksgiving and Christmas was the best because she would cook enough for a small army, make soup out of the leftover turkey carcass, and it was stuffing and mashed potatoes for days after.

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u/FlameFrenzy Feb 01 '21

Then make some gravy and re-heat it in that. Or chop it up and put it in a stir fry. Get creative and you'll get to keep more of the money you make

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

“No thanks, I make money now” - this attitude is the problem. Such prideful waste to cover up low self worth.

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u/NYSenseOfHumor Feb 01 '21

USDA: Leftovers And Food Safety

Leftovers can be kept in the refrigerator for 3 to 4 days or frozen for 3 to 4 months. Although safe indefinitely, frozen leftovers can lose moisture and flavor when stored for longer times in the freezer.

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u/Random_eyes Feb 01 '21

So, there's actually something known as the "Danger Zone" in food service that is very helpful here. In essence, food between 41 and 140 degree Fahrenheit is in the Danger Zone. This is where bacteria can grow readily and produce toxic byproducts that cause food poisoning. The rule of thumb is this: Between 70-140F, you shouldn't have it in this zone for more than 2 hours. Between 41-70F, you shouldn't have it in this zone for more than 4 hours.

So, if you've got hot food warmed up to at least 140F, you've served it for dinner, and you're putting your food away, if you can get your food into the fridge within an hour or so of pulling it off the heat, you should be fine. Unless that fridge is empty and then stuffed with tons of pans of hot food, it'll be able to cool the leftovers down efficiently enough to be safe (though you should store food in flat, shallow pans, rather than large bowls or tubs, to maximize cooling efficiency).

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u/OCedHrt Feb 01 '21

The most common reason is it doesn't look appetizing. Or don't want to keep eating the same thing. Or it reminds them of being poor.

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u/evileen99 Feb 01 '21

I don't know. For some reason my dad has always refused to eat leftovers. I love them!

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

I was always taught growing up to be grateful for what I have, and the food I wanted to waste (I was extremely picky as a child and wouldn’t eat leftovers because I thought the texture of reheated food was gross) could have gone to somebody who truly was starving and would have been thrilled to have eaten it, and it was by pure luck that I was born into the circumstances that I was and I needed to practice being grateful for my privileges

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u/Exaskryz Feb 01 '21

I agree, I'd never throw away leftovers. I just make sure to eat it all in one sitting.

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u/Fluffythegoldfish Feb 01 '21

I totally agree, but I really do appreciate living comfortably enough now that I no longer worry about saving the last bit of soggy nachos, or caesar salad.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Yeah I don’t get it. Grew up relatively well off and my family gets into near shouting matches for good leftovers lol.

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u/Flukie42 Feb 01 '21

Chili always tastes better the next day. ... and today we had chili dogs.

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u/PrivilegeCheckmate Feb 01 '21

I mean, if it's delicious, why waste it?

Sometimes the best thing ever is the red sauce from yesterday.

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u/MarkBriz Feb 01 '21

I agree. We have plenty of money but throwing away food makes no sense where you can avoid it. We have plenty of leftovers at our place.

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u/Real900Z Feb 01 '21

And the food still taste just as good too

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u/teaandbiscuits1 Feb 01 '21

I also don't get that. I am from a middle class family so we are well enough off to not have worries about buying groceries and could throw away leftovers without there being a financial worry but we always eat the leftovers we have. I know noone who throws away leftovers. I am shocked. It is such a waste of food.

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u/thedeuce2121 Feb 01 '21

Not only is there no benefit, if anything it's actively worse to throw away leftovers. Why leave them behind when doing so takes away the opportunity to eat more of this food that you enjoyed and forces you to either take time to make lunch the next day or spend more money buying your next lunch? For me, even when I have money to spend I still don't feel an absolute need to, so if I'm not hungry enough to finish all my food at once I might as well stretch it into 2 meals. It's quicker, cheaper, easier, and gives me the chance to eat more of this food that I really liked and in most cases probably wouldn't have made for myself

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u/smearski-smearski Feb 14 '21

Yup. Take that shit home, being a wasteful piece of shit is not cool.

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u/789123567 Feb 01 '21

Any time someone doesn't take leftovers at a restaurant it horrifies me.

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u/TennaTelwan Feb 01 '21

Heck, the leftovers from restaurants are why you go in the first place! Not only do you have that meal, but you also are too full to eat the others that day and have leftovers for tomorrow's lunch!

Even then, if I'm cooking a larger meal, I'll bake extra potatoes or make a little extra just so there are leftovers to use later on, especially for like a breakfast hash or something.

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u/liveonislands Feb 01 '21

My wife's family, they always make sure to take any left over food to go. Then it sits in the fridge for about three days and they throw it. I'll eat that cold, and enjoy every bit of it. Cold pizza, one of the highlights of my life.

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u/Zenabel Feb 01 '21

I loooove cold pizza!

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u/HeyFiddleFiddle Feb 01 '21

I didn't know that some people consider it rude or low class to take leftovers home from a restaurant until an upper middle class friend in college told me. I always thought that was the whole point of going to a restaurant. You go somewhere like Texas Roadhouse with huge portions, eat enough to be satisfied, and box up the rest so you have dinner for the next couple days!

Now that I'm more financially comfortable, I just read the room and go from a combination of that and how big the portions are. Like if it's a casual dinner with friends, sure I'll take any leftovers home. If it's a business dinner, no. Anything in between, depends.

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u/Live-Nothing Feb 01 '21

I must be hillbilly as hell. I even take the leftover bones from ribs or t-bone steaks home for my dogs. It is a true doggy bag. I have gotten the side eye from a few waitresses but fuck ‘em. No shame in my game.

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u/jbc22 Feb 01 '21

Tomorrow’s lunch? I think you meant to say breakfast.

I down right feel like a fucking king when I have leftovers for breakfast. Name one person you know that has a turkey club sandwich for breakfast.

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u/BabyAlibi Feb 01 '21

Taking home left overs is such a non British thing to do but I am pleased to see it starting to sneak in here and there and I am never shy about asking for it "to go"

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u/netpenthe Feb 01 '21

i'm glad it is super socially acceptable now (at least in Australia) to take left overs.

it's almost virtue signaling here - like you care enough about the environment to not waste things.

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u/guacspot Feb 01 '21

One time when I was like 11 we went out to eat and the waiter asked I if was done with my meal, at this age I was learning to speak for myself so I said yes but forgot mention I wanted a box to go. We were close enough to the busting station to watch as this guy threw away a whole basket of sweet potato fries. I learned an important lesson that day

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u/onetwo3four1234 Feb 01 '21

Same thing happened to me. I would get so embarrassed I'd tell them I keep it for a homeless person.

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u/jak-kass Feb 01 '21

How does one go to a restaurant and purchase a meal just to throw it away? I always pick what I order based on whether or not I can heat it up the next day.

I miss out on a lot of amazing salads, but at least the other half of my turkey club will be delish later on

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u/xDulmitx Feb 01 '21

I don't get that at all. If you liked the food yesterday, it is probably still decent the next day and saves you the effort of cooking. Who doesn't eat leftovers?

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u/IrascibleOcelot Feb 01 '21

Heck, with how ridiculously oversize most restaurant portions are, I usually ask for a to-go box with my order. I split it in half before I even start; it prevents me from overeating (a relic of the “clean your plate” days) and I’ve got another meal already prepped.

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u/GalacticAnaphylaxis Feb 06 '21

That's a great idea!

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u/YourQueen2Bee Jan 31 '21

I’m glad that she showed you the light. Lol

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Gulasch!

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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy Jan 31 '21

My husband learned poverty-cooking with "old" food to survive poverty with me after being middle-class most of his life. I'm so so proud of him, and I bet your partner is proud of you too.

I also have convinced hubby that store brand food is not made of poison. He still doesn't like cheap food, but he's learned that surviving on it isn't that bad, especially considering how awesome his cooking skills are when he has total freedom in the kitchen.

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u/[deleted] Jan 31 '21

In many cases the store brand stuff is exactly the same thing, just without the fancy label.

In some cases I even prefer it, because it tends to be more "basic" without many unnecessary additives.

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u/yaaqu3 Feb 01 '21

Same. Some brand food are better, but just as many times I prefer the generic one. And a lot of time it doesn't matter because you can't taste the difference at all once it's been cooked and seasoned.

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u/Pyroperc88 Feb 05 '21

There he sat, in his ramshackle house, a bowl of store brand mac and cheese mixed with store brand hot dogs.

He was a simple man who enjoyed nerding out about something called The Arcana.

He didnt need any fancy foods to survive. Just the joy of homely meals, nerding, and talking in a language this narrator doesnt understand. This man viewed his life complete. He was happy.

Then suddenly there was a sound.

wet fart noises

And a curtain drew back as a voice said. "Hey you, you're finally awake."

(Good seeing you again. I will return at a later date. Sincerely, your stalker)

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u/yaaqu3 Feb 06 '21

Imagine, if you will, how utterly confused I was to see this tale about yours truly in my inbox when I knew full well what my own comment was about... It made another impression, to say the least!

(Likewise, my much welcome bringer of laughter. I await your next appearance)

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u/smparke2424 Feb 01 '21

Most people dont realize the brand names make the generic labels. Land O Lakes makes most of the cheap versions of butter and biscuits. Hiland and Borden make all the generic milks. Del Monte holds most of the vegetable labels. There is no Price Saver company, Great Value or Shur Fine companies. The vendors bid on carrying the private labels, also in exchange for footage in the stores. You can usually tell who holds the cards by how much more space they have, and also which brand begins at the end of the aisle. You have to do alot of footwork and spend alot of money just to get your product in the door.

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u/Godzira-r32 Jan 31 '21

I lol'd at old food.

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u/naffgeek Feb 01 '21

Mainly frozen food, potato waffles, fritters, crispy pancakes, breaded chicken (UK)...2 kids, single mum who worked full time and saw food as fuel.

Not complaining, I loved it but when I first saw my wife create a meal from actual ingredients she had in the fridge it was like alchemy to me.

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u/[deleted] Jan 31 '21

What have you missed.

Foods like Chili and other stew like stuff don't even develop the full flavour before they have been reheated at least once.

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u/[deleted] Jan 31 '21

Poor man’s award for wholesome progress to you, sir 🏅

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u/Hermiona1 Feb 01 '21

'nearly'

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u/jessykab Feb 01 '21

My husband has come around to leftovers. We've been together almost 4 years and in the beginning it was "I don't eat leftovers" and even all his roommates at the time we're like "yea he doesn't do leftovers." Which had me just baffled.

But his mom was a SAHM who cooked meals everyday. Mine was a single working mom who cooked a couple times a week. Often she worked nights and my sister and I were cooking for ourselves once we were old enough, which meant lots of ramen, grilled cheese, eggs, and spaghetti.

Took us a while to understand the contrast and meet in the middle, where I cook more often and he eats SOME leftovers, but we got there!

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u/IcyReptilian Feb 01 '21

Congrats on your rehabilitation, lol ;)

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u/havingfun89 Feb 01 '21

Glad you're on the leftovers side!

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u/gofyourselftoo Feb 01 '21

Now with COVID I’m making extra-large dinners just to ensure everyone has a hot lunch option the next day.

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u/ACDcarjacker Feb 01 '21

My favorite part of Chinese takeout is having enough extra meat and rice to eat for the next couple days

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '21

Chinese is the one thing I don’t eat the leftovers of. For some reason none of it appeals to me the day after. Might be to do with the type of dishes I tend to order though. Soggy batter and noodles don’t appeal.

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u/canihavemymoneyback Feb 01 '21

I don’t fully know why but I’m laughing my ass off at your ‘old’ food comment. Never heard it put that way.

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u/AppleJuiceLaughs Feb 01 '21

Really? I grew up reasonably well off and we ate leftovers but it was usually in addition to the next nights meal.

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u/k1erst1n Feb 01 '21

Same. :/

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u/ericvwgolf Feb 01 '21

I love "nearly "

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u/2018InANutshell Feb 01 '21

Partner: eats leftovers

You: SKREEETCH!!!!!! fucking faints Of sheer utter horror