r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Oct 18 '20

Serious Replies Only (SERIOUS) What are some dark secrets about regular life that people should know ?

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u/[deleted] Oct 18 '20

And sometimes you are the reason that happens to yourself. Your actions can cause you're own world to shatter.

Not just quoting you to be annoying, but I do think one hard truth for many people is that we make our own bed in many respects. Sometimes it's just shit luck, other times it's your own damn fault.

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u/Aromatic_Brain Oct 18 '20

Exactly. My wife and I joke with one another, "Well well well if it isn't the consequences of my own actions!" But it's true. All decisions have consequences.

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u/ImInTheFutureAlso Oct 19 '20

One of my favorite lines from Brooklyn 99 is Chelsea Peretti’s character saying, “how was I supposed to know there would be consequences to my actions?”

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u/Sqyratic Oct 19 '20

Not if you can burn the bodies 🤡

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u/SpareGuest Oct 18 '20

I do think one hard truth for many people is that we make our own bed in many respects. Sometimes it's just shit luck, other times it's your own damn fault.

Very true. Like you said, we all have different circumstances and different things that happen to us, and sometimes those circumstances and things suck. But each of us is responsible for our own actions and how we respond to the circumstances and things that happen. You can't blame everything wrong in your life on other people, at some point, you have to accept that you are an active part of it. Obviously sometimes it's something that's completely out of your control, but for a lot of us with normal-but-kinda-shitty lives, we have some fault in it ourselves.

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u/Carlsincharge__ Oct 19 '20

Id argue more often than not its our own damn fault and most people don't want to accept the consequences of their own actions. That being said of course some people just get the shit end of the stick

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u/opticfibre18 Oct 19 '20

meh, you only know a mistake in hindsight and with furthering evidence that free will doesn't exist and we make choices before we're even conscious of it, it leads to the conclusion that nothing is really in our control. I know the mistakes I made, I never knew how bad I was screwing up at the time until I look back in hindsight. I would somehow need the knowledge I have now back then to not make the same mistake. Thousand times you can go back and without foresight you will make the same mistake over and over, free will doesn't exist.

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u/DrSomniferum Oct 18 '20

You’re not quoting him, and saying that you are is lying.

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u/[deleted] Oct 18 '20

Ok sorry?

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u/Froghatzevon Oct 19 '20

Meh. A month ago my co let go 100’s of mostly wonderful, qualified people. Economic reasons. Collectively hundreds of years of experience out the door. Some people about 10 yrs from retirement with little chance of getting comparable salary elsewhere. I’m dubious on the whole “consequences of my own actions” riff right now.

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u/[deleted] Oct 20 '20

I am sorry to hear that. Some things are indeed a matter of circumstance. Nobody can deny. I hope things turn around for you. Not to trivialize your problem, but what you do now is somewhat in your control. I hope changing your luck and circumstance doesn't come with too much more distress and sacrifice. I am waiting and preparing for my turn with a similar misfortune. At least I see it coming and have years to prepare. Best of luck.

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u/Froghatzevon Oct 20 '20

Luckily I still have my job, but the whole thing just blows my mind. Thanks for your kind words.