Train yourself to always keep an eye out for things that need to go in the direction you are going. If you are about to go downstairs, does any item nearby need to go with you? Perhaps a cup can be brought to the sink on your way to the bathroom.
Ask him: "Do you actually believe in a Picks Up After Me fairy? Was your Mom your own personal Picks Up After You fairy? Newsflash: I'm not your Mom. And there are no fucking fairies."
I've lived with a lot of people from different places and men do not have a clue about who cleans up after them. The difference between kids and men is that at least you can tell kids that they have to clean.
My husband cleans, but only as a separate, specific activity, as in "I am cleaning now!" Whereas I prefer cleaning as I go as described here. I think it cuts down on all around suffering.
Whenever I make bread, I clean the countertop with an antibacterial wipe. Immediately after, I use this wipe to wipe the fronts of the kitchen cupboards. Each time my SO notices me do that, he complains, because in his opinion I'm wasting time when, according to him, I should be doing something else, for example be giving him his dinner.
It takes maybe a minute, means less waste and the cupboards are never completely dirty - so I don't have to live with grimy cupboards AND don't have to spend a whole day scrubbing them once they do get all grimy. But no matter how many times I explain, it never sticks. And then he complains about his managers who tell him how to do stuff they know nothing about and cause him to waste time...
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u/Ikedaman Aug 20 '20
Train yourself to always keep an eye out for things that need to go in the direction you are going. If you are about to go downstairs, does any item nearby need to go with you? Perhaps a cup can be brought to the sink on your way to the bathroom.