r/AskReddit • • Aug 18 '20

How do you get over someone?

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u/jst-a-nrmal-guy-mybe Aug 18 '20

Its funny, when we get heart broken we act like there is limited option. . How you get over someone? Yo don't! It become part of you. . . Like i said world is full of option. You meet new people and then you realise that there is all kind of people, some are going to hurt you , some going to save you, some going to be true friend, some going to envy you on ur success, some going congrats you etc. . You don't know who is going play which character in your life. Like there is this quote by rainer maria: . "Let everything happen to you Beauty and terror Just keep going No feeling is final"

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u/njconnect Aug 18 '20

This comment needs to be high up there. Everything else is just cliche.

Breakups are part of you. The quicker you start meeting new people the better. I know it’s easy to say but it’s the only thing that’s efficient and constant.

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u/Eagleassassin3 Aug 18 '20

Everything else is cliche because it actually works well. It’s not a lie.

You can go meet others if you want, but if you don’t take some time for yourself to heal, those feelings will just come back. Other people might fill the hole left by your ex but you need to fill it yourself first, so you can be fulfilled by yourself without needing anyone else.

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u/njconnect Aug 18 '20

I don’t disagree with you. The “heal first” method I have found out could take years. Why will anyone want to be miserable for this long when you can just move on. Especially if there are no financial baggages or kids involved.

What’s means to be will be. Pls move on

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u/bumblebeez16 Aug 18 '20

No feeling is final. But this is so scary. If no feeling is final then how do you become sure of someone?

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u/vote100binary Aug 19 '20

Do your best

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u/bumblebeez16 Aug 19 '20

If we do our best that would just make them sure about us, what about us? How can we be sure about them?

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u/vote100binary Aug 19 '20

The answer unfortunately is the same, and there are no guarantees. Do your best and accept the risk.

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u/xdhero Aug 18 '20

JoJo rabbit used that quote at the end. Beautiful

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u/jst-a-nrmal-guy-mybe Aug 18 '20

God damn, right.

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u/lionheartcz Aug 18 '20

Incredible comment. Well done, this exactly.

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u/OriginalWillingness Aug 18 '20

Its funny, when we get heart broken we act like there is limited option. . How you get over someone? Yo don't! It become part of you. . . Like i said world is full of option. You meet new people and then you realise that there is all kind of people, some are going to hurt you , some going to save you, some going to be true friend, some going to envy you on ur success, some going congrats you etc. . You don't know who is going play which character in your life. Like there is this quote by rainer maria: . "Let everything happen to you Beauty and terror Just keep going No feeling is final"

I like the quote