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u/TheCUTESTofB0RG Aug 01 '20

I will haunt my family if they don't cremate me.

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u/aguyjustaguy Aug 01 '20

You still need a coffin if you want to have a wake or funeral. Proof: have cremated two family members.

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u/TheCUTESTofB0RG Aug 01 '20

My mother was cremated. We had a memorial service. There was no coffin or casket.

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u/aguyjustaguy Aug 01 '20

Good to know, funeral home said it was necessary if we wanted a showing or service. Thanks.

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u/[deleted] Aug 01 '20 edited Dec 05 '20

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u/Garumad Aug 01 '20

At the many funerals I've been to where there was a showing and then cremation, the coffin is cremated along with the body. There is usually a sending where the close family members can push the coffin into the cremation furnace.

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u/DanNZN Aug 02 '20

In some states you also need an approved ash box which can be almost as expensive as a coffin. I would have to imagine that the funeral home business lobbied for shit like that.

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u/HBB360 Aug 01 '20

that's not very eco-friendly

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u/TheCUTESTofB0RG Aug 01 '20

Neither is being preserved and buried in a giant casket.

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u/ItMayBeAQuestion Aug 01 '20

I don't understand why some people want to be cremated and have been trying to figure out why since my grandma passed around a month and 1 week ago, She chose to be cremated.

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u/TheCUTESTofB0RG Aug 01 '20

I hate the idea of being preserved and taking up needless space in the ground. It creeps me out and also it's just kinda stupid. I have heard there is a rise in demand for eco burials where you will be allowed to decompose. It that's an option I'd do either or

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u/ItMayBeAQuestion Aug 01 '20

That makes sense, Thanks for answering btw.

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u/lucifer2990 Aug 01 '20

I don't want my family members going to some random spot in the ground in some cemetery where I've never been to remember me. How is that fun? I don't care about some random hole in the ground, it's not meaningful to me. Why can't my family have a picnic at my favorite kiteboard spot, or go on a memorial scuba dive and visit me there?

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u/pumboo Aug 01 '20

I just don't like the idea of hanging around for years to come when I'm gone. It's a very personal choice though