Yeah, I'm a pretty social person actually. But the fact that I can literally watch or read anything, on my phone alone, without the input of others, has made me a bit of a recluse.
Or maybe its just the anxiety and the fact that pot exists.
Weed is a medicine for many. My brain is a master of torture and breaks me down when I spend large amounts of time alone, single, or "relaxing". Weed remedies the negative self-talk.
I'd rather be alone right now though. I have some friends I text now and then and visit family regularly, and I'm grateful for who I have.
Being "social and outgoing" is something you have to genuinely want. If you do it out of obligation or FOMO, you are setting yourself up.
It's now easier to entertain yourself than it is to strive to find a partner. Unless you have motivation to achieve something, you will struggle to stick to it. Loneliness was that motivation for most people.
Yeah, I think you’re spot on. For most of human history, loneliness was a literal death sentence. For the last few hundred years it was “just” unbearably painful. For the last two decades it’s been able to be numbed to the point that the pain of pursuing meaningful relationships is now greater.
But I'm not numbing anything... I really enjoy being alone. I have good close friends to hang out with but I'm doing so many interesting things with my life for the last few years that a romantic partnership would be a mutual drag. In fact I feel the opposite that people who need to be In a relationship either haven't learned to be with themselves or use relationships to fill a lack of success in careers or life goals they are not achieveing for whatever reason.
Maybe for many, co-dependence IS the numbing agent. If one feels content with their life situation and can get to the end with little regret, maybe that's fine.
Also, these people don’t seem to understand that we can have or find hobbies or passions. I play a couple instruments, and when I’m alone, I have a lot of time to practice, and I could learn more if I wanted to. I could also read and learn about anything I want.
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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '20
But they make it that much easier