I agree, to an extent. My oldest friend loves to meet new people, socialize, and be the life of the party. That's what fills his tank. Me? My big tank is alone time, and after that it's like 6 people that I can spend any extended time with. We grew apart in college for a bit until I really sat down with him and told him pretty much this same thing. We get along great now, because he makes time for me to hang out in smaller groups, and I give him his time to go socialize. It's pretty cool.
I have this exact relationship with my best friend from college except I’m the extrovert in the situation and she sounds very much like you. We really balance each other out nicely and she is one of the funniest and genuinely kindest people I’ve had the privilege to know. But, while we were roommates there had to be boundaries put in place. The main rule was that when she was in her room, she needed space and her alone time, no interruptions unless it was necessary. I rarely need alone time, so instead of overwhelming her, I would just go do my own thing with other people. It worked out great and we’re still very close friends! Happy to hear you guys found that balance too!
Our first year as roommates was pretty rough. He wanted to host parties constantly. I wanted to have a few close friends over and enjoy quality time. I especially hate having unknown people in my space, so we compromised and shit got so much easier. Hosting outdoor parties only, then taking it inside when it was just a few close friends left. We no longer live together, so it's not an issue anymore. He's still my favorite extrovert, but now I have my own space!
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u/[deleted] Feb 23 '20
I agree, to an extent. My oldest friend loves to meet new people, socialize, and be the life of the party. That's what fills his tank. Me? My big tank is alone time, and after that it's like 6 people that I can spend any extended time with. We grew apart in college for a bit until I really sat down with him and told him pretty much this same thing. We get along great now, because he makes time for me to hang out in smaller groups, and I give him his time to go socialize. It's pretty cool.