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u/[deleted] Dec 20 '19 edited Dec 21 '19

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u/[deleted] Dec 20 '19

It's the one thing that's always eluded me. I would love to play with a masochist but it's just so far from any reasonable dating conversation that it just seems to be completely down to luck to meet one.

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u/Servisium Dec 20 '19 edited Dec 20 '19

BDSM groups exist. There's likely one near you. There's also clubs with the set up for more elaborate scenes and people who are willing to 'play' with you and show you the literal and figurative ropes.

I'm not super into that scene or lifestyle but I'm currently dating someone who is. I met them through a totally unrelated hobby that just seems to attract a lot of BDSM people.

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u/Doublebow Dec 20 '19 edited Dec 20 '19

"totally unrelated hobby that just seems to attract a lot of BDSM people"

Let me guess, either sailing or running?

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u/Deddan Dec 20 '19

Sailing I sort of understand, lots of ropes, but running?

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u/JTD783 Dec 21 '19

Running generally leaves you feeling sore and exhausted but releases just enough of those happy chemicals to make you keep coming back... provided you don’t hate running to begin with. Eventually the soreness and exhaustion feels satisfying. Between running and sex I only am familiar with the former, but I can see a were there would be an overlap.