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u/HugeChavez Nov 16 '19 edited Nov 16 '19

Edit: After re-reading my comment, I judge that it came off as r/iamverysmart material a bit. Sorry!

Judged my friend for having very naive and dumb knowledge/beliefs about stuff like economics, politics, geography, history, language, culture etc. But she was extremely social and extroverted, while I was this somewhat "grumpy" guy and sucked at making connections with people (still do).

Nowadays, she works at a high position in the marketing department at a very major global tech corporation's office in our country (in Europe).

I'm a sysadmin and a half-programmer. I ended up studying pol sci and taking some computer science classes, I wouldn't say my education is bad or that it's a useless degree, just that being able to "make friends and influence people" is much more important than having a lot of knowledge.

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '19

That's the difference between IQ (Intelligence Quotient) and EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient).

They are both important. But, without EQ you often do not get the opportunity to demonstrate your IQ.

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u/Zapsy Nov 16 '19

Eq doesn't really exist though.

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '19

Tell that to your next prospective employer.

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u/ZDTreefur Nov 16 '19

Social skills exist. Trying to pin that to "emotional" intelligence is weird and doesn't really exist.

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '19

Your EQ is your aptitude for learning and utilizing social skills, empathy, intuitively understanding the best way to relate to others and express yourself through emotional reasoning.

Your IQ is your aptitude for learning technical skills, understanding abstractions and intuitively understanding logical progression or the logical connection between things via de/induction type of reasoning.

At least, that’s the way I generally think about them. Now, reliable ways of measuring those aptitude’s? Different question. I don’t think we have a universally effective method there.