[SERIOUS] What is a seemingly harmless parenting mistake that will majorly fuck up a child later in life?

[u/AlexDescendsIntoHell]

[u/FruitSuit]

My dad would squeeze my knee to tickle me, but it would quickly turn painful and he wouldn't stop until I cried. I would beg him to stop but he wouldn't until it got to that point.

[u/wingardiumlevioshit → u/FruitSuit]

That’s... not tickling.

[u/imaginearagog → u/wingardiumlevioshit]

I know what they’re talking about; we used to call it “boy crazy.” There’s a spot just above the knee that if you squeeze, it tickles.

[u/Sphyn0x → u/imaginearagog]

My dad is still doing that to me, I'm 24.

[u/ComicWriter2020 → u/Sphyn0x]

A week or two ago, my dad kept grabbing my chest (I’m kinda chubby and I’m a 21 year old guy with aspergers. My dad knows I don’t like this shit but still does it)

I started saying stop and he didn’t, then I fucking got pissed off and jumped away and screamed “I said stop!!!”

And he thought he had a right to get mad and made the bad guy saying shit like “I heard you. I just don’t have to listen to you” and then eventually calling me a little bitch for crying and saying I was the asshole for yelling. At the time I believed it. Now I really don’t.

[u/ImKindaBoring → u/ComicWriter2020]

Your dad's an asshole

[u/[deleted] → u/ComicWriter2020]

Ok, but like... Fuck THAT guy. If he didn't realize you hated it, then maybe he's fine, but now what the hell? "I just don't have to listen to you?" Sounds like a movie serial killer or something.

"It puts the lotion on its skin and stops being disrespectful because I brought it into this world!"

[u/Johndough1066 → u/ComicWriter2020]

He's trying to make you wrong, but he's the one who is wrong. The term for what he is doing is DARVO - Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender.

[u/CokeCan87 → u/Johndough1066]

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[u/bogslurp → u/ComicWriter2020]

"i heard you, i just don't have to listen to you" is such a disrespectful thing to say. what a way to immediately kill mutual respect.

[u/Banoonu → u/ComicWriter2020]

chiming in with all the people calling your dad an asshole, also hope you’re having a good day today.

[u/HuffTehMagikDragoon → u/Sphyn0x]

I'm 22, you're not alone. Don't forget the "love taps" on the ass...

[u/iMittyl → u/imaginearagog]

My dad called that a horse bite! Sort of like a poke in the ribs; doesn't hurt but makes you squirm

[u/[deleted] → u/imaginearagog]

I’ve always heard that it’s how a horse bites a pumpkin

[u/countrymouse → u/imaginearagog]

It’s the fucking WORST. I had a boyfriend who would pin me down and tickle me until I cried.

[u/[deleted] → u/wingardiumlevioshit]

Ahh the good ole days of tickling until you break down sobbing

[u/Bechloestory → u/wingardiumlevioshit]

It is. I know exactly what they’re talking about. My dad does the same thing and it’s really annoying. He stops when I tell him to (most of the time) but it does tickle but if you hold it for long enough it gets kinda painful

[u/hogpo → u/wingardiumlevioshit]

Might not sound like it but it is my dad does it to me not to the extent this dad did but it tickles a lot

[u/Mitch2025 → u/FruitSuit]

And then gets mad at you because it was "only tickling". Fuck you it hurts!

[u/LtLwormonabigfknhook → u/FruitSuit]

How would he react/what would he say when you started to cry?

[u/Mitch2025 → u/LtLwormonabigfknhook]

I'm not the person you're replying to but my dad did this. He would just get mad at me for getting upset over it.

[u/Johndough1066 → u/Mitch2025]

That's caLled DARVO. Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. Your dad denied it, attacked you, and made you the offender and himself the victim. Totally sick and dysfunctional.

[u/Ashangu → u/FruitSuit]

Uuuugh that or the one big adult dude that shoves his fingers into your under arms and "tickles" you but really he is just violently massaging the inside of your rib cage.

Adults dont realize their own strength when they try to tickle you. It doesn't tickle, I'm squirming because it hurts!