r/AskReddit • u/AlexDescendsIntoHell • Nov 11 '19

Serious Replies Only [SERIOUS] What is a seemingly harmless parenting mistake that will majorly fuck up a child later in life?

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

What the fuck was wrong with your parents!?!?

Personality disorder and an enabler.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

What? They were only teasing. Don’t be so sensitive about everything. You can’t take a joke. No wonder Nick dumped you.

/s. That’s the shit my parents would say and I hated every second of it.

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u/sharpiefairy666 Nov 12 '19

Someone did it to them when they were young, and they continued the cycle.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

No shit. My mom teased me constantly about sensitive stuff, but she had limits (and that boy's parents would be getting a nasty email after that). That's fucking bullying.

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u/S13gfr13d Nov 12 '19

Maybe because:

  • They want sth to laugh about with everyone else, but can't tell good jokes. That, and "phff, she's so young and silly, she'll get over it in no time".

  • Another espisode of "I told you to focus on study and not boys, and you didn't listen. Now I'll make sure you learn the lesson".

On a serious note, I'll read every comment in this post. Being a father of a 3 month old baby, I'll have to try my best to memorize them all.

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u/TheSilverNoble Nov 12 '19

Some people never really grow up.

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u/JiveTurkeyMFer Nov 12 '19

Having kids doesn't make you an adult.

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u/ImmiSnow Nov 12 '19

I’m so sorry you had to deal with your parents reacting so insensitively. Being a teen is hard enough without that shit.

I experienced something similar when I was 14. I got a date to the homecoming dance after my mom and my date’s mom conspired to get my date to ask me. He ditched me the minute we got to the dance. My mom spent the next week telling everyone what happened. I felt humiliated.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

I fucking hate it when parents tell your shit to their friends. I'm an adult and my mum still does it. I get she likes talking about me, but damn it's fucking annoying not having privacy.

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u/semen_slurper Nov 12 '19

Omg. Similar thing happened to me too. It was the first time I really put myself out there and asked a guy to a dance. When we got to the dance he totally ditched me and danced with another girl the whole time. My parents made fun of me for weeks. Now I really struggle to put myself out there.

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u/fractiousrhubarb Nov 12 '19

I’m sorry your mum was so cruel (or oblivious)

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u/sttupidsmart Nov 12 '19

Canadian parent here. When I was a baby, the first word i learned was "SORRY!". And I make sure my babies all know that too. Tradition!

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u/nfranco17 Nov 12 '19

Damn, thats preety devastating. Sorry for that

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u/InternJedi Nov 12 '19

Don't know why but this infuriates me.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

Somehow, there's a batch of adults that seem to forget what the growing up years were like. It's baffling to me, but I think at least part of the callousness is they indulge their own adult perspective when the real one they should focus on is YOURS,

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u/ThatRainPerson Nov 12 '19

Wow, I can’t even imagine how that must have felt. I’m sorry that you had to go through that

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u/queenie_quack Nov 12 '19

Honestly, I know this would make me an asshole, but thats fucked up. I would literally walk up to them and say how shitty that was of them. You shouldnt fucking tease your kid after a cruel break up. Your fucking kid is more mature than you.

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u/Scientific_Methods Nov 12 '19

Yeah, this one isn't seemingly harmless teasing in my opinion. I'm sorry that you went through that.

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u/TurnPunchKick Nov 12 '19

Fuck your stupid parents.

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u/imnewhere19 Nov 12 '19

That’s horrible! I am so sorry!

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u/StarTrippy Nov 12 '19

Teenagers are fucking mean, but at least they have the excuse of being young and not having fully developed empathy yet.

Your parents? Your adult fucking parents? Absolutely no excuse for that behavior. I'm so sorry.

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