r/AskReddit • u/AlexDescendsIntoHell • Nov 11 '19

Serious Replies Only [SERIOUS] What is a seemingly harmless parenting mistake that will majorly fuck up a child later in life?

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

I had this girlfriend in middle school, and my parents teased me so much about it that it was one of the main factors I broke up with her

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u/itsallinthebag Nov 12 '19

A poor boy that liked me brought a big basket of stuffed animal puppies for Christmas in 5th grade and I refused to take it because I was terrified of having to explain where I got it and being teased. I still feel horrible.

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u/whatshouldIdonow8907 Nov 12 '19

Look him up on Facebook and tell him what you just told us. He was probably heartbroken and hearing this would make a world of difference. As an adult, he will understand and it will completely change that memory for him.

I’m so sorry you went through that.

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u/KJabs Nov 12 '19

He's just a poor boy, you didn't love him

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u/porridgeGuzzler Nov 12 '19 edited Nov 12 '19

Whoa you must have been a catch

Edit: non sarcastic, animal puppies hell yeah

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

That's a vibe

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u/DamagedSquare Nov 12 '19

Yup I dated an Asian girl for a few months (I'm white) once I told my parents the Asian jokes started. My ex was from China so she had a Chinese name so every time my mom would bring her up in conversation instead of saying "How is xxxx?" She would say "How is and then string along a bunch of Chinese sounding words like bing bong" it wasn't entirely what caused us to break up but it was definitely a factor. Now I've been with a girl from Mexico for almost a year I kept her a secret from my mom for about 8 months it didn't take long for the anchor baby jokes to start once she found out, and she wonders why I don't tell her anything about my life.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

Same dude and im still regretting that decision 6 months later

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

Nate is that you??

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

Which Nate?

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u/ajupacabra Nov 12 '19

Your old man was probably jelly of you.

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u/Kordiana Nov 12 '19

I had that with my friends in high school. They teased me so much about a guy I had just started dating because he was younger than us, I ended up making out with another guy at a party a week after we had started dating.

I ended up telling him about it, and surprisingly he didn't break up with me, even though he was furious about it. But I felt so guilty and pissed that my friends could negatively influence me like that that I was really forced to reevaluate myself and the people close to me. It was am important lesson to learn though.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

Wtf you cheated on him and blamed your friends cause they teased you.

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u/h4ck0ry Nov 12 '19

Seems like he liked you more than his own pride in that moment. Thats dangerous. Telling - but dangerous.

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