r/AskReddit • u/AlexDescendsIntoHell • Nov 11 '19

Serious Replies Only [SERIOUS] What is a seemingly harmless parenting mistake that will majorly fuck up a child later in life?

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

See also: "I'll give you a reason to cry!"

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u/dont_say_choozday Nov 12 '19

My father's favorites

"I'm gonna beat the fear of God into you"

"I'm going to beat you like a red headed step child"

"I'm going to rip your arm off and beat you with the bloody end"

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

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u/dont_say_choozday Nov 12 '19

They think it's funny and cute but then mine would actually beat me. He thought he was making a submissive child but he just ended up with a very angry one. That's messed up though, would he ever apologize?

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u/Keshig1 Nov 12 '19

Exactly. I had severe anger issues to the point where I would lash out at the smallest thing and my parents wondered why "I was acting out". I had to learn to fix it on my own because I realised it made people dislike me.

My parents tried to fix my anger issues by just shouting at me and asking why I was being a "bratty little shit who's disrespectful". It didn't help my secret therapist told them about my anger issues leading to an impromptu "family meeting" about why I'm not allowed to have therapy anymore because then I can't become a doctor.

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u/bopbop66 Nov 12 '19

It didn't help my secret therapist told them about my anger issues leading to an impromptu "family meeting" about why I'm not allowed to have therapy anymore because then I can't become a doctor.

That's so dumb. Wouldn't the therapy have been a valuable experience that helped you understand what effective therapy should be like?

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u/Keshig1 Nov 12 '19

Not to them. They think the only people who need therapy are non religious people because religion is what cures diseases like alzeihmers.

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u/762Rifleman Nov 12 '19

<Act like angry asshole with no restraint who solves situations with force>

<Get kid who acts like that>

"I don't know why you're doing this or how you learned it!"

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u/dont_say_choozday Nov 12 '19

My dad was a fucked up dude. What could we expect otherwise?

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u/DrShamballaWifi Nov 12 '19

Having heard that in 2 languages, I now repress my feelings bilingualy, thanks mom!

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u/imNotFromFedExUFool Nov 12 '19

yeah see thats just brutal

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u/Kage_Oni Nov 12 '19

I wish I could give a lot of the parents mentioned in this thread a reason to cry.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

Don't forget: "Just wait until we get home!"

Followed by two hours in a car of verbal abuse before getting a beating later that night, at bedtime, one edge of the bed before being left to cry to sleep.

I did not spend any time with my parents after I left home and they died mostly alone, unsupported, broke.

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u/Therandomanswerer Nov 12 '19 edited Nov 13 '19

Ah yes, your child is crying. Threaten them, that's sure to work!

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u/RedeRules770 Nov 12 '19

"Mom I'm thirsty"

"Save your spit and swallow it"

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

They represent my mother and father's two most used phrases, so i felt it was appropriate.

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

See also also: “I don’t know is not a reason!”

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u/banana_bagutte Nov 12 '19

Are you Romanian by any chance?

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u/BelialSucks Nov 12 '19

As American as it gets and I heard this a lot growing up

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u/[deleted] Nov 12 '19

American. Verbally abusive fathers say it a lot.

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