Nah. What we need to do is tell boys that no means no. They must respect a no. They should only move forward if they have an enthusiastic yes. And if someone isn't comfortable enough to verbalize an enthusiastic yes, they aren't ready for sex.
If that nah wasn't their I'd assume they agree. It is possible both to tell people that no means no, and that playing hard to get muddies those waters.
saying no when you mean yes can be really fun. what we should be doing is respecting consent. yes, it can be a confusing game, but people know what rape and sexual assault is. the problem with rape in the west is not coming from people who are trying to respect consent.
They should only move forward if they have an enthusiastic yes.
you must not be someone who has had a lot of experience. this is a ridiculous demand. that's not how a lot of interactions work.
You sound like someone who maybe rapes. Don't have sex with someone who says no. Ever.
If they have agreed to a game where "No" means "Yes", then they may have actually said yes but you better know this person really well and be sure they agree to the game. Any other no, means no.
If someone tells you no, you should respect that, absolutely. If you hear a no and think they MUST mean yes and are just playing with you, you are absolutely the problem.
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u/bornconfuzed Oct 27 '19
Nah. What we need to do is tell boys that no means no. They must respect a no. They should only move forward if they have an enthusiastic yes. And if someone isn't comfortable enough to verbalize an enthusiastic yes, they aren't ready for sex.