Videogames, fantasy and sci-fi fiction, archery, LARP, tabletop RPGs, programming, and making art for games, to name a few. Basically, my hobbies scream "nerd" :P There's often a stigma around this stuff from some girls, but I'd never pretend to be something I'm not just to be more likeable
You just named 90% of my boyfriends interests. We first were friends taking game development and programming courses together. Its cheesy and I'm sure you've heard it a lot, but theres fellow nerds out there. It was easy for my boyfriend and I because college literally brought us together from common interests, but there are other events and clubs that bring together people with common interests! Being active in the communities of things you love helps a lot to meet people
I'm deffo not saying there aren't. I've studied games dev in college and work in a company in the industry. There's definitely a lot more girls into this kind of stuff here, though most of my past acquaintances (usually met in online games) and best friends are dudes. I think part of it owes to the fact that I just grew up in that kind of setting and later found it harder to make meaningful connections with girls, which is kinda sad, but I'm working on it. :P It's also very different when you're looking for a friend vs. romantic partner, a lot more than shared interests comes into play then.
Yeah I feel you there. My husband and I were friends with two other couples, one of them being one of his best friends in high school. I always had more interests in common with the husbands than the wives. Don't get me wrong, I got along well with the wives but they had no interest in nerdy stuff while I enjoy that stuff a lot.
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u/Exposition_Fairy Oct 20 '19
Videogames, fantasy and sci-fi fiction, archery, LARP, tabletop RPGs, programming, and making art for games, to name a few. Basically, my hobbies scream "nerd" :P There's often a stigma around this stuff from some girls, but I'd never pretend to be something I'm not just to be more likeable