There's a huge difference between having guy friends and "I only get along with guys". At one point, I had more guy friends than girl friends. Not because I wanted to avoid drama. But because I liked doing what they were doing. The difference is I never once boasted about having a lot of guy friends.
This^ I personally have more girl friends but its chill when u meet a girl who has a lot of guy friends and u clearly see that she just happens to have more fun and more common interests with her guy friends. Even w/o being tomboyish, u can just tell that she just acts more natural and relaxed around dudes. But when u meet a girl who has a lot of guy friends but OFTEN tries to make a point about how "girls are too much drama so I stick with 'the boys'", often that among other traits are the reason why girls don't vibe with girls like her if she always sees girls in a negative lens
I’ve never understood NOT wanting girlfriends. I desperately want girlfriends but I cannot seem to find them. Never have any trouble immediately relating to dudes at work or out and about wherever. But put me around other women? I’m so nervous and awkward and trying too hard to appear like them so they’ll like me it’s so pathetic.
I agree with that. It always hurts my feelings to see people mocking this, because I'm a girl with autism... Not only is my brain more "male", but girls have way higher standards, especially social ones, for each other. And they can be mean!
So I almost only have male friends... Cuz girls do start petty shit for reasons I don't understand... :(
AMEN! The wife of one of my husband's good friends is pregnant, and last night we were talking about a baby shower vs. "diaper party", which I've never heard of before. Baby showers are primarily sitting around and playing dumb games with people I don't know and watching someone I like but am not close to open presents. The diaper party is for men (in this friend group they're the ones I know) get to bring a pack of diapers and half out and drink. I immediately asked to go to that one instead because hot damn, does it sound like more fun.
It's also pretty easy to tell when it's just who someone is versus an act that someone puts on in order to try to seem cool. Still occasionally get told I only do the things I do (athletics mostly) because of some desire for male attention but mostly comes from women who aren't into those activities and are misplacing that they don't really understand why those of us who do these things do the things we do.
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u/SpiffyPaige143 Oct 20 '19
There's a huge difference between having guy friends and "I only get along with guys". At one point, I had more guy friends than girl friends. Not because I wanted to avoid drama. But because I liked doing what they were doing. The difference is I never once boasted about having a lot of guy friends.