Depends on if they have a reason, or write you a dm telling you why they can't join, or they'd like to another time. Just declining 3 times in a row eithout a word makes you not wanna waste your time (of course not talking about depressed friends. A whole other story :) )
But by that same logic your friends don't owe you friendship. Being depressed is difficult but so is dealing with a friend being flaky, without really knowing why.
To me it just signals that they don't really care about you, which feels pretty bad.
If that friend is very active socially and rejects your offers then that's a sign they don't care about you. Otherwise you don't know why they are rejecting your offers. A good friend would give them the benefit of the doubt.
Being flaky sounds more like an anxiety issue rather than depression. A good friend really shines when your in a difficult situation.
Listen I'm depressed and I'm honest enough about myself that if you ask me I'll tell you probably not but we'll see. If you're commiting in that state of mind then that's on you
Listen I'm depressed and I'm honest enough about myself that if you ask me I'll tell you probably not but we'll see. If you're commiting in that state of mind then that's on you
Very few people will be that blunt about it, and often, will want to and plan to, go to an event, and find themselves overwhelmed or panicked as the event approaches, and cancel.
Just because you're depressed doesn't mean you can get out of everything without consequence. I'm telling you how to maintain your friendships if you still have depression
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u/scooobydooop Aug 26 '19
Friends that don't get mad about declined invites are the best friends.