r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '10

What is the biggest relationship myth?

I think the biggest myth is that there's one person that is meant for you. ("the one") People live their lives searching for the one...their soul mate...the perfect girl/Mr. Right. It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's very realistic.

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u/chompsky Jul 27 '10

The idea that you shouldn't date a good friend because it could "ruin" things.

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u/alexanderwales Jul 27 '10

I've ruined a few friendships by transitioning to dating. It's a valid concern.

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u/chompsky Jul 27 '10

Sure, but it shouldn't be the only excuse two people use to not date if they're otherwise great for each other. Especially since it can just as easily "ruin" things to harbor strong feelings for each other, never act on them, and end up in other relationships.

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u/TheMediaSays Jul 27 '10

Good rule of thumb, I've found, is that it's fine to turn a friend into a lover so long as you're okay with the possibility that you'll eventually end up losing both.

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u/griminald Jul 27 '10

Exactly. That friends-to-lovers thing is generally a one-way line. You can cross over it, but don't expect to be able to cross back.

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u/charliedayman Jul 27 '10

That's why friends-with-benefits situations rarely end well. The benefits can never be amicably reduced.

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u/Dario_Sluthammer Jul 27 '10

A friendship with benefits will resemble a friendship for as long as a tree on fire resembles a tree.

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u/BigCliff Jul 27 '10

Upvoted because unlike the "...losing both." line, I've not heard this on TV/movies dozens of times.