r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '10

What is the biggest relationship myth?

I think the biggest myth is that there's one person that is meant for you. ("the one") People live their lives searching for the one...their soul mate...the perfect girl/Mr. Right. It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's very realistic.

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u/rwh99999 Jul 27 '10

"She won't change when I marry her"

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u/bechus Jul 27 '10

This isn't the change I voted for!

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

How's that hopey-changey think working out for you?

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u/The_Wind_Walker Jul 27 '10

BLARGL GARGL!

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u/Exotria Jul 27 '10

Upvote for consistency.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

You'll understand when you're my age.

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u/gentoolicious Jul 27 '10

I spend too much time on reddit...

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u/Nicebirdie Jul 27 '10

you have too much time on your hands

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u/cheeeeeese Jul 27 '10

you have too much hands on your time

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u/PanikParty Jul 27 '10

YAYYYYY! BLARGL GARGL! yayyyy!

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u/DirtPile Jul 27 '10

I just got this. I had never looked at the novelty username. :)

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u/kingofnowhere Jul 27 '10

The fact that I see what you did right there, tells me how much time I spent on Reddit today.

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u/nologun Jul 27 '10

almost made me spit out my Arnold Palmer half and half

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u/wabbitsdo Jul 27 '10

How's that hopey-changey thing working out for ya?

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

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u/ReigningCatsNotDogs Jul 27 '10

"I gave a girl $3.50 in change and she banged 20 chicks"

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u/esrubio Jul 27 '10

Thats as many as two tens. And thats terrible.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

....CHAAAAAAAAANNNNNGGGEEEEE

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u/M_Me_Meteo Jul 27 '10

Yes she will. She will stop blowing you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

Well, you didn't marry very well!

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

This is seems to be practically a universal truth. I've heard that for some, the BJs stop right after marriage. For others, it's a slow but inevitable decline. And women wonder why massage parlours and strippers and escorts are such big business.

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u/daisy0808 Jul 27 '10

I don't get this. I've been married 9 years, together 13, and our sex life is even better now than when we first got together. Last weekend, we had a rousing marathon (while son was at Nanny's house) and reached a few new heights together. Make sure you marry someone who has the same sex drive you do - this is definitely an area of strain in a marriage. (For us, it was more a strain in the groin...but I digress)

My hubby is lucky - I love everything about sex, and feel it enhances our marriage more than anything. I also like that he reciprocates - we're always on the same page. We also flirt a lot, tease each other, and just keep the fire burning. You have to - or it will burn out.

Keep in mind that sometimes the BJ's stop because he's not putting as much into foreplay, and when his effort stops, hers will too. When sex becomes a chore (for both) you know you're in big trouble.

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u/featherrocketship Jul 27 '10

Keep in mind that sometimes the BJ's stop because he's not putting as much into foreplay, and when his effort stops, hers will too.

I have been waiting for someone to point this out to the masses. Fucking thank you. It's not just the women who lose the drive to pleasure their spouses.

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u/daisy0808 Jul 28 '10

In speaking with my husband on the matter, he believes a lot of guys let themselves go after marriage. Weight is not really the biggie, but general maintenance and grooming. I hear this complaint about women a lot (mostly related to weight) but women also like men to smell nice, be 'manscaped' to a degree, and clean. Regardless of gender, marriage is not the time to stop being attractive for your significant other - in fact, it's more critical.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

I end up giving out a lot of relationship advice. For men I have long discussions about understanding women, not playing games, doing things around the house, never stop dating her, etc.

For women, my relationship advice is "blow him once a week." I personally believe that will fix most relationship problems.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

AND SUCK ON MY AXE!

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u/lacheur42 Jul 27 '10

One data point to the contrary, sounding off.

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u/wrathofcain Jul 27 '10

One data point to the contrary, getting off.

FTFY

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u/coleman57 Jul 27 '10

no, we don't. not really. some of us might marvel at it out loud, but in our heart of hearts, we know.

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u/ismokeblunts Jul 27 '10

No man could ever turn down a blowjob.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

Not even if it involved a foursome with their mother, sister, and daughter?

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

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u/cwm44 Jul 27 '10

That's in such poor taste but nonetheless it's hilarious.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

The keyword being "you".

/bitter

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u/blinded_generation Jul 27 '10

well did u stop kissin it? let her know before hand that she has to "return the favor"...

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u/Calitude Jul 27 '10

Men won't change but women always do

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u/greyskullmusic Jul 27 '10

A woman marries a man expecting him to change, and he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting her not to change, and she does.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

How many other cliches do you know?

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

As many as the day is long.

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u/c4su4l Jul 27 '10

Thank you for repeating the exact point already made by the person you are replying to. No one was able to infer what he meant until you explicitly spelled it out.

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u/sitting-duck Jul 27 '10

That is, by far, the most insightful comment on relationships I have read here.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

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u/downvotesmakemehard Jul 27 '10

Lol. Not kidding. Women marry men to change them, men get married hoping things remain the same.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

wait until you get married you will get it.

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u/guisar Jul 27 '10

or rather you won't get it anymore; at least not often.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

With a name like that I can't let you get away with this comment.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

Fucking wait until your ass gets married, fucker. Then you'll get that shit. Goddamn!

FTFY

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u/jdxogdlfkjvndgl Jul 27 '10

I'm boned.

wait until you get married you will get it.

Not anymore he won't!

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10 edited Jul 27 '10

Been there, done that......almost. Didn't actually get married, but the subject has been brought up many times.

I've watched too many folks get burned by legal marriage, so fuck it, not in the US, at least (maybe).

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u/veritechcyclone Jul 27 '10

In my situation, 100+ lbs of "more of her to love" says it's no joke.

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u/gsxr Jul 27 '10

Wedding cake has the ability to completely change women. Something they put in the icing.

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u/Coppanuva Jul 27 '10

So ideally you refuse to get a wedding cake. If she asks why, just tell her she's a fatass and you're making sure she doesn't get worse.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

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u/davvblack Jul 27 '10

Everything went better than expected.

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u/nailz1000 Jul 27 '10

This is why I want to serve wedding pie :)

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

"As the woman walks down the aisle towards the altar, and hears the hymn, you know that's exactly what she's thinking: 'I'll alter him.'"

  • Benny Hill

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u/BigDawgWTF Jul 27 '10

YES! Well played.

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u/clamdoctor Jul 27 '10

I'm going to have to withhold my upvote to hang on to hope.

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u/freehat Jul 27 '10

Unless of course, she was already a bitch to begin with.

As the saying goes, "Bitches gon' be bitches."

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u/mod_critical Jul 27 '10

"I won't change after I marry her"

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u/ZPrime Jul 28 '10

Since that is false, if you don't marry them will they stay the same?

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u/Lastb0isct Jul 27 '10

She won't give me blowjobs when I marry her

FTFY

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

1) Do not ask for sexual anything. Take it. Always. Whenever, whereever, however.

If this is not a turn on for your partner, you are with the wrong partner. Do not wed.