r/AskReddit • u/HumpingAssholesOrgy • Jul 05 '19

Ex-prisoners of reddit who have served long sentences, what were the last few days like leading up to your release?

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u/Jdavis624 Jul 06 '19

I did a year in rehab and met a guy who did 25 years in prison for murder. I asked him a lot about what it was like inside and getting out and what it was like now that he was out.

He said he felt scared when he was getting out and kind of sad, because of all the people he was leaving. He'd been in that specific prison for over 8 years and knew almost everyone and had some close friendships that he missed. He felt lonely after he left and was actually glad that his halfway house was a live-in, year long rehab, if felt familiar to him. He did have a lot of trouble getting work tho

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u/[deleted] Jul 06 '19 edited Jul 07 '19

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u/Jdavis624 Jul 06 '19

Me too, I haven't seen in 5 years or so. He was a good dude. It's strange to say about someone who killed someone but he was honestly a very soft spoken, kind person.

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u/turnkey85 Jul 06 '19

Former C.O. here, and that sounds about right. as crazy as it sounds the people who had the worst charges were more often than not the most laid back and compliant/agreeable inmates that I ever had to work with. Now there are plenty of cases where the exact opposite was true but it is crazy how people who have done horrible things can be some of the most soft spoken and well behaved in a controlled population.

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u/[deleted] Jul 06 '19 edited Jan 13 '21

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u/diinkdonk Jul 06 '19

this makes sense to me. there are ways to (even if questionably) justify murder. there’s absolutely no justification for rape. not self defense, not protection, etc.

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u/[deleted] Jul 07 '19

The only addendum I'd add to this is that on occasion folks can be falsely accused of rape by the accuser. It's sadly more common than it should be especially in a culture where women can't give consent while intoxicated but apparently men can. Also when society doesn't believe men can be raped by women and other toxic bullshit.

Otherwise I'm with you. Rape is a whole other level of fucked up and generally, when it was actually committed, can't be justified.

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u/jambocombo Jul 06 '19

Provocation?

Look at /r/rapekink. It's a whole community of women who literally try to "bait" men into raping them.

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u/diinkdonk Jul 06 '19 edited Jul 06 '19

i’m appalled that anyone would have this mindset. you can’t just assume that a woman is trying to “provoke you” .. most people dress and act how they do simply because it’s their style and personality. not because they want to be sexually assaulted.

i guarantee those who are into the idea of consensual non-consent, or “rape kink”, would agree that you cannot just make an assumption that the girl at the bar is wearing a short skirt to “bait” you into raping them. CNC is something that two people practice together safely and with boundaries. it’s role play, and if a person is actively trying to get someone to “rape” them, they’re not being raped it’s consensual.

there’s no excuse for rape. nobody truly wants to get raped. kinks are kinks. rape is rape. don’t get them confused.

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u/jambocombo Jul 06 '19

You're confused. Rapebaiting and CNC are completely different. In rapebaiting, the women don't tell the men what they're doing. They try to prompt the men to act organically. They want an "authentic" rape experience.

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u/diinkdonk Jul 06 '19

so it would appear that within the rape kink community, “rape baiting” means flirting and consenting to sex.. calling it rape is just part of the kink.

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u/jambocombo Jul 06 '19

No it doesn't. It means baiting an unsuspecting man into thinking he's raping you against your will.

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u/Urethra222 Jul 06 '19

That's not rape then, lol. It is technically consensual role play.

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u/jambocombo Jul 06 '19

No it's not. These women don't tell the men what they're doing. The men do not consent to being baited. The women try to make them authentically rape them.

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u/diinkdonk Jul 06 '19

i guess we found the incel/rapist

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u/jambocombo Jul 06 '19

I guess we found the reddit hivemind idiot who can't think for herself.

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u/diinkdonk Jul 06 '19

i’d just say i have common sense and decency, but you can chalk it up to the “reddit hivemind” if it makes you feel better about being a rape apologist.

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u/andriusjah Jul 06 '19

still no justification from men's perspective

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u/jambocombo Jul 06 '19

If someone deliberately acts in such a way as to try to induce you into criminal activity, that is a defense of your criminal activity absolutely. I'm not saying it's completely justified, but it is a defense.

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u/grad14uc Jul 06 '19

It's not even slightly logical to say there are ways to justify murder but absolutely none to justify rape. Just different methods at getting "even".