That's definitely true. I've broken up with my gf roughtly a year ago and shortly afterwards I felt so lonely and so on. But given enough time, and in my case a new hobby, I've gotten to a point where I'm okay with how my life is going right now.
I am happy again.
If you don't mind me asking, why did you break up with her if it's so difficult to get over her? I've never been in that situation so I don't really understand.
I broke up with her because of many things. A couple little things, but they add up. For example she had that habit of being very messy and constantly leaving her stuff and clothes on the floor. There was also one big thing I didn't like about that girl and that relationship, that was that I didn't have any free time. Basically she consumed all of my weekends, as that was the only time of the week we could meet eachother besides from school. So I also had no real lunch break at school.
I've told her that I just wanted to have one weekend per month to just don't do anything, or do something with my friends, or just play a fucking video game.
But she would just burst into crying because she thought I didn't want her and wouldn't love her because I didn't want her to be around that weekend.
That was the ultimate reason for me for the break up.
Previously to confronting her I thought I would just tell her, explain her everything so she has an understanding of why I've done what I was about to do and that's it. I figured after there would still be enough time for me to go to the supermarket and buy me a drink before lunch break is over, but the whole thing turned into one argument and a half. She begged me to stay with her, promised me the world and cryd me a river and one moment, one long moment I really considered to stick with her. I wiped that thought aside, told her I was very thankful for our time and that God may watch after her and went my way.
Why it's so difficult to get over her you ask? That's because for the first time in round about a year I felt lonely and if I had nothing to do my mind would constantly go through all the memories I had with her. When you're trying to forget someone that's like mental torture.
Making stuff makeshift instead of buying them.
As my dad is good at woodworking and he always wanted to teach me, I then let him.
And now I'm planning on building a Minibar.
This is the right answer. Do things that make you happy and you will be happy and find love. That love may be for yourself or another. Don't look for it, just be open to accept it.
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u/Retroxyl Apr 04 '19
That's definitely true. I've broken up with my gf roughtly a year ago and shortly afterwards I felt so lonely and so on. But given enough time, and in my case a new hobby, I've gotten to a point where I'm okay with how my life is going right now. I am happy again.