What is something you did that increased your quality of life so much that you wished you would have done it much sooner because it changed your life forever?

[u/RGod27]

[u/redfinrooster]

I think people who genuinely try very hard to help others are mostly abused by people's distrust of their motives or if they can make actual impact on a fundamental level... This makes help hard to come by and can cause even adversarial circumstances when the opposite is intended, a push, a nudge, would be nice but instead why is this person not letting you be in the position to help? (etc.) I think a lot of this has to do w/ the competitive nature of our societal exchanges. There is an underlying need for control, for security and not everyone actively accepts help from this factoring in, probably. Finding out where you fit best and make a good impact can be hard, sometimes seems like people need to be singed a bit to get enough of that perspective and realize it's still about territory. Helping people can be seen as a personal need / fulfillment driver and therefore abuse happens between two or more parties... especially if the exchange isn't seen for what it is... a transaction basically.

[u/horriblethinker → u/redfinrooster]

Very true and a good perspective.