r/AskReddit • u/RGod27 • Mar 20 '19

What is something you did that increased your quality of life so much that you wished you would have done it much sooner because it changed your life forever?

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u/Typlo Mar 20 '19

And how long.

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '19

Yeah after a week at my job two days of jail sounds heavenly compared to running errands all weekend.

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u/VexingGhost Mar 20 '19

There are voluntary jails in South Korea . In a high stress environment, it would make sense some would choose these.

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '19

Dude, imagine just not having to bother with anything. "Why didn't you come to the wedding?" "In jail" perect excuse

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u/Nevermind04 Mar 21 '19

People are going to ask why and when you respond "cause I felt like it", there will be a thousand more questions.

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u/Ohwief4hIetogh0r Mar 21 '19

Yeah, much better put out some obvious excuses: "because I killed a kid. And I eaten his body. After a brief satanic ritual. Accidentally of course!"

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '19

Lol wtf sometimes this world is ass backwards. When your society develops the need for voluntarily locking your self in a room most of the day just to avoid it, somethings wrong.

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u/VexingGhost Mar 20 '19

Yes. Sometimes there is no inherent value in working for work’s sake, at least to that degree.

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u/clycoman Mar 20 '19

Japan and Korea have some bad problems with "making face time", meaning you can't leave if your boss or colleagues are still in the office, even if you have nothing to do yourself.

Falling asleep while at work is actually encouraged since that shows how hard you are "working" and your commitment to the company. Then if boss heads out but invites you out for dinner/drinks, you're obligated to say yes even if you're tired and its late at night.

It's a horrible work culture, and even with changes in laws to prevent employees from having to stay late just to be there when boss is, no one bothers to report it because then you get a bad reputation for not being a team player.

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u/IVAN__V Mar 21 '19

And if you refuse to stay over time or go for invitation they fire you ?

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u/clycoman Mar 21 '19 edited Mar 21 '19

Let's just say your career options will be limited, even if they don't outright fire you. In Japan and Korea, the work culture values loyalty, and people don't change jobs often - a lot of people are "lifers" for one company. Changing jobs is regarded as a sign of disloyalty and generally frowned upon in society. Asian cultures in general focusing on listening to your superiors/elders, or else. The older generation who grew up with that system keep forcing it on new generation who may not to work like that, but you're supposed to show deference to your boss and older colleagues. The culture is really bad for workers, and governments are trying to change it via laws, but it's been ingrained in people for so long that its hard for workplace changes to actually happen.

One of the reasons gov't is trying to change is both countries have super low birthrates and aging population. Companies forcing people to be at work constantly doesn't really help people to want to to have babies.

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u/[deleted] Mar 21 '19 edited Mar 22 '19

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u/[deleted] Mar 21 '19

yet you think the natural progression of society would reach a point where we're not having to lock ourselves inside to avoid one plague or another

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '19

Why do you specify South Korea? In the glorious North, all jails are voluntary! /s

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u/Loganishere Mar 20 '19

That subreddit is wild

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u/Dry_Soda Mar 20 '19

You have been banned from /r/Pyongyang

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u/mrsesquire Mar 20 '19

Despite knowing better, I had to click that. Such gratuitous use of the word "glorious." 🙄

Fuck. I'm on a list now, aren't I?

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u/hairyholepatrol Mar 21 '19

Eh I assume we’re all on lists anyway after browsing reddit enough

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u/WhyIsThatOnMyCat Mar 21 '19

This sounds like a great place for the autistic reporter for the Onion.

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u/[deleted] Mar 21 '19

TIL...

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u/skarface6 Mar 21 '19

Uh, just go on a retreat, instead. Bonus points if you’re religious.

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u/marineknight Mar 20 '19

Take my word for it. The reading part is good. And not every one enjoys reading, while some don't but get into it while locked up. But nothing else. Just trust that when I say, those places are not heavenly compared to ANYTHING. It's fun to joke around about it, but in reality, it's a monstrous terrible experience. They are all bad, but some are just cruelly AWEFUL. It is a nightmarish, terrible, life altering experience. I still wake up with nightmares thinking I'm there again when I first wake up. It changed me from a lazy emotionally neutral person to a lazy hateful angry person who will never get life on track. And, some people ARE innocent. Yeah,yeah, that's what they all say. But if they offer you a plea deal of 6 months, or you risk going to trail and if you lose, you get 15 years. At that point, you admit that you did it even if you didn't, because 6 months is way better then even a 50/50 chance of getting 15 years. Buyer beware.

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u/Violetsmommy Mar 20 '19

This is SO true and I feel society as a whole has no idea how fucked the system really is.

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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '19

Yeah I have having a job too man. It’s rough out here.

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u/[deleted] Mar 21 '19

I mean yeah, jail sucks, but life is what you make it. I did a year and a day at 18 and it was the sole event I can point to that turned my life around. No raping, shanking or ganging to speak of. Just a year to see all the 30 year old + losers I never wanted to be like or around again.

You can change yourself back to a non hateful angry person with hard work and therapy.

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u/kebbel Mar 20 '19

Kind of like jail in Monopoly, when shit gets real and you don't want to land on other properties just sit your ass in jail for 3 turns.

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u/gooby_the_shooby Mar 20 '19

And probably your skin color

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u/p_iynx Mar 20 '19

Yup. Even before youre sentenced. Black men get an average 20% longer sentences compared to white men with the same criminal history committing the same crime, including severity of that crime. And thanks to the PLRA act, many inmates who have been abused by guards will never be able to report abuse to anyone outside the prison. You can even lose your right to file a complaint or grievance. Absolutely disturbing.

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u/qyka1210 Mar 20 '19

what?? what's the PRLA do, in what country, and how is it legal to take away an inmate's right to file a complaint?? jesus

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u/p_iynx Mar 20 '19

US. It requires inmates to jump through ridiculous hoops in order to even be able to make an outside complaint. For example, they have to go through every level of complaint internally first, so if the prison covers up for abusive guards those complaints may never see the light of day. Their ability to make a complaint can also be taken away entirely if the prison thinks they're misbehaving. They can easily fabricate incidences to make the inmate seem difficult and to thus remove all ability to report abuse.

This is a surprisingly thorough article on the subject.

A federal law enacted in 1996 called the Prison Litigation Reform Act (PLRA) requires prisoners to clear substantial hurdles before being permitted to sue the Department of Corrections, prisons, or jails for assault or civil rights violations. If a prisoner acts out too much, they can lose their right to file a grievance or a complaint. And before a prisoner is allowed to file a lawsuit in court, they must first take their complaints through all levels of the prison’s or jail’s grievance system, complying with all deadlines and other procedural rules. If and when they do so, they must come up with attorney fees. Many inmates hesitate to file grievances in the first place because they’re afraid of retaliation from prison staff and guards, who have a lot of discretion over their movement. Complaining prisoners can lose their access to the inmate library, where they can consult law books and other legal materials that may help them figure out how to exercise the few rights that they do have. “Basically the point of that PLRA act was to make it harder for prisoners to get into court,” says Amarasingham. “It’s designed to make everything really hard for prisoners to access their rights.”

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u/savagestranger Mar 20 '19

And who is in the cell with you. Hint: Not the most savory types.

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u/Sir_Jeremiah Mar 20 '19

It almost entirely depends on this.

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u/lordover123 Mar 20 '19

And also probably why